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[-] ICastFist@programming.dev 13 points 1 day ago

Or he saw the message, thought about the response, forgot it, checked again and realized he hadn't sent a reply.

Or he's away from the phone for whatever reason, which happens when you start to break free from its chains.

[-] robinadams@lemmy.wtf 10 points 1 day ago

Or he's working and uses the pomodoro method

[-] FireRetardant@lemmy.world 127 points 2 days ago

Or the mans is working and can't be on the phone all day, or his mom called, or literally a million other excuses. If you want instant and consistent responses, call them.

[-] Addv4@lemmy.world 53 points 2 days ago

After you text to make sure they're down to talk. Gotta have some consideration for them.

[-] FireRetardant@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago

Yea thats fair. I'm an on call worker and also an emergency contact for customers so I'm actually relieved if its just a friend calling me randomly instead of the boss or a customer. Now that I've thought about it, whenever i wanna discuss plans or details with a friend i usually send them a text asking them to call me when they can.

[-] Steve@startrek.website 9 points 2 days ago

Calling just because text response is slow is a Red Flag.

You best have something urgent to say

[-] FireRetardant@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I meant more so if you want to hold a consistent conversation with someone, not just because it was a slow response. Also there are many people who prefer to call. If i call a friend and they dont pick up, they'll just hit me back later, just the same as if they didn't have time to respond to my text in the moment.

[-] chonglibloodsport@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago

I hate calling on the phone. If you want to have a real time conversation with me, meet me in person. We’ll have a beer, or go out for lunch, or watch a movie, or go for a walk.

If you live too far away (or you don’t know me), you’re stuck with text. The only exception is my mom, who lives on the other side of the continent from me. I put up with phone calls to talk to her.

[-] three@piefed.social 1 points 2 days ago

Based retard

[-] bus_factor@lemmy.world 82 points 2 days ago

Or he's nervous and kept rewriting the message for 25 minutes. Could literally be anything. And 25 minutes is not a long time.

[-] marduk@lemmy.today 9 points 2 days ago

Literally me. RCS messaging gave me away with the typing indicator appearing, disappearing and reappearing over and over

[-] achsonaja@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago

That's why I disable it

[-] Karjalan@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

I'm just imagine some grandma level typing speed. One finger at a time 4 letters per minute.

[-] OpenStars@piefed.social 1 points 1 day ago

One letter per 4 minutes...

If you're texting it's because you don't need/desire an immediate response. Judging someone by how long it take them to respond to a text is a red flag. If you're going to be needy that's fine but at least make it clear.

[-] SomeAmateur@sh.itjust.works 60 points 2 days ago

People can have lives AND care about you at the same time

[-] PotatoesFall@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 1 day ago

Seeing this get reposted here and on reddit every month for the last 10 years is a Sisyphean burden

[-] PotatoesFall@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 1 day ago

Man play video game woman no understand funny must repist every five seconds for all eternity

[-] x00z@lemmy.world 20 points 2 days ago

If you want to chat live we can hop on IRC milady.

Or anime episodes

[-] EyIchFragDochNur@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago

Yes, mom, it's video games. Or masturbation

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