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[-] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 27 points 2 hours ago

I feel like a lot of people who bemoan the lack of friends also don't invest in friendship. Don't show up when invited, don't organize anything themselves.

I used to run a book club and a board game club, and it was always kind of a struggle to get people to show up. The pull of "just go home and look at Instagram" is strong, I guess.

[-] natecox@programming.dev 1 points 13 minutes ago

I feel that you’ve severely misrepresented or misunderstood why people don’t show up to things. Assuming that they’re just addicted to instagram or whatever is such a crappy take.

Most adults are tired. They’re under paid, over worked, over stressed, and just plain worn down. The weight of a world designed to crush them has done its job very well.

People don’t show up because they’re depressed and stuck in a hole they don’t know how to get out of.

Source: I live in the real world. Also, I too run book clubs and shit and have seen people struggle to stay engaged.

[-] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 1 points 6 minutes ago

"go home and look at Instagram" is largely a stand-in for "I'm tired and can't muster the energy to do anything that feels more effortful".

In my limited experience, the trick to getting out of the hole is doing the hard thing anyway. That and professional advice and medication as appropriate. You can't to my knowledge willpower your way out of clinical depression. But ultimately if you want out of the hole, you have to climb out, regardless if that means therapy, medication, or being mildly uncomfortable. It's not going to fix itself.

[-] Zink@programming.dev 3 points 48 minutes ago

It's a very widespread problem, and I don't know how much to blame on media and culture vs human nature. Maybe some magical thinking too.

Basically, it's the issue of people being on autopilot and expecting the life they're supposed to have just happening to them. Interpersonal relationships are a huge part of it.

[-] Tyrq@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 1 hour ago

I must be the luckiest person on the planet according to this stuff. I ought to feel more blessed honestly

[-] toynbee@lemmy.world 6 points 1 hour ago

Where did you meet your friends?

[-] Tyrq@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 1 hour ago

By showing up to parties, inviting them to stuff, and just being generally helpful to them. The ones that reciprocate are worth keeping around, the ones that don't can go on their way. Getting inviteed to the right parties is part of the luck I suppose

[-] toynbee@lemmy.world 6 points 1 hour ago

How do you get invited to parties without friends?

[-] Grimy@lemmy.world 10 points 1 hour ago

Wait for people to buy cases of beer at the store and follow them. With a bit of luck, you can blend right in.

[-] toynbee@lemmy.world 9 points 1 hour ago

This seems like bad advice.

[-] Tyrq@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 1 hour ago

There are clubs for all sorts of stuff, nerdy stuff like chess or magic the gathering, hiking clubs, photography clubs, whatever hobby you have, there's probably people out there with a club to share it. Just go and be a decent person, good chance you'll find people who click with you, then you go from there

[-] toynbee@lemmy.world 6 points 1 hour ago

I suspect my tiny town might be less diverse than you think! But I appreciate the advice. Much gratitude to you.

[-] yermaw@sh.itjust.works 33 points 3 hours ago

Poor bastard hasn't even got a naive son asking why hes such a loser

[-] SilverCode@lemmy.ml 30 points 2 hours ago

Because Jessica won't respond to his messages

[-] KyuubiNoKitsune 4 points 1 hour ago

Making, having and keeping friends is hard work.

I live in a super antisocial country and in 5 years I was able to make 15+ friends, a lot of them are close friends. Not all do i see every day, but I try to put in effort to keep in touch with them.

I worked really hard on getting out and meeting people, and it paid off.

[-] scytale@piefed.zip 2 points 1 hour ago

Oh you’re friends with Mr. Likely as well!

[-] lavienG@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 hour ago

I'm getting emotional.

[-] LaserTurboShark69@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 hour ago

TOO REAL ALERT

this post was submitted on 12 Dec 2025

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