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I have a technical interview tomorrow morning for a job after 18 months and I feel like I'm going to fail. I have no idea why though because I've been damn good at my jobs for 20 years. I just have a 6 month old that I watch 5 days a week, work a fast food job the other 2 days, a spouse that is recovering from cancer, a disease that the chemo had on him, and now an appendicitis. I NEED a job, I am running through money faster than I can make it. I'm worried that all of these pressures put more stress on me which translates somehow to my interviews.

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[-] lemmylommy@lemmy.world 30 points 1 week ago

Damn, that’s a lot on your plate. For what it’s worth, this internet stranger is rooting for you.

[-] newbeni@lemmy.world 19 points 1 week ago

Thank you, your comment actually made me smile. :)

[-] KurtVonnegut@mander.xyz 8 points 1 week ago

This internet stranger is also rooting for you!

You've got this, kick their asses into next week.

[-] newbeni@lemmy.world 14 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Thank you, I hope to.

[-] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 week ago

May you and your spouse sleep well tonight, arise rested, and ace everything tomorrow!

[-] LadyButterfly@reddthat.com 8 points 1 week ago

That's a lot to deal with. Cancer is devastating, even when it doesn't kill it causes so much pain. You're working, and you have a young child to look after which is hard enough. On top of that, you've got financial issues to deal with. It's no wonder you're distressed anybody would be, and you're doing amazing.

With all this pressure it's no surprise that you're stressed about the interview. Your cup is already full, you need this, and there's a lot at stake. Your brain is understandably ringing alarms for you and telling you things about yourself that aren't true. I believe in you 100% you said yourself you can do your job. You've got this, and no matter how it goes you've got a load of supporters here the other side. Let us know how it goes we're all cheering you on

[-] klemptor@startrek.website 6 points 1 week ago

Oh man, you've had a really rough go of it! My heart goes out to you. Just know that if you can handle all that, you can absolutely do this! 🤍

[-] molten@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago

You've got this. I wish I had good advice or something to offer but I'll drop this This has helped like one person ever besides me and I recognize it's a little ridiculous but I play pretend with myself that it already happened and I'm replaying it. The outcome is predetermined. I'm just going through the motions and doing my best for practice. Makes me feel less pressure and more at ease for things I can't realistically prepare for more.

[-] QueenMidna@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 week ago

If you don't mind some perspective as a technical interviewer...blab. Talk through your technical thoughts, talk through your process. Lean into nervous babbling if you can, and occasionally take a break to summarize.

You can do it 😀

[-] Flubo@feddit.org 4 points 1 week ago

Thats a lot. I cross fingers for you.

If possible for you in this Situation, try not to think about you needing the job but Them needing you. Otherwise they wouldnt look for someone. And with your experience of 20years you might be just perfect. They are desperateley looking for a New employee and you are the one who could help them out.

[-] ZDL@lazysoci.al 2 points 1 week ago

Coming in a bit late, sadly, but my response will be musical.

Fighter by Infected Rain

Key lyric:

You got this, you're a winner
A fight machine, a killer!

Also by Infected Rain is The Answer is You

Key lyric:

You have the power to switch the game
To make a difference and break the chains (Break, break)
You can be the change you want to see
Awareness will set you free
The answer is you, you have it all, the answer is you

I hope that this helps to stiffen your spine for your upcoming trials. I find the rage of compassion hidden behind Lena's harsh vocals pretty inspiring myself.

this post was submitted on 01 Oct 2025
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