If you leave your cart in a parking space, you're sub-human
You're passible if you take it to the corral
But a truly good human will stack the carts into proper rows if the carts are loose in the corral
I firmly believe in the validity of the Shopping Cart Test. On a related and depressing note, my little city is overrun with errant shopping carts.
I have a clip from my dashcam floating around somewhere of me stopping, jumping out of my car, then hauling ass to catch someone's runaway cart moments before it hit a parked car. Honestly one of my proudest moments.
On the opposite end, I once left a cart (on a curb) and it haunted me. To be fair, it was absolutely storming outside and I was chilled to the bone and just wanted to warm up..
Apparently I'm a truly good human because my organizational autism trait gets triggered. I'm not even annoyed fixing them. It's just satisfying to see them in order.
I do have some caveats for this. As my parents both park in handicap, we've noticed that the cart corrals are super far from the handicap spots and I won't blame someone who already has trouble walking half way down the parking aisle to a corral.
I do tend to take the random carts from the parking lot in to use for shopping when I see them though. No reason to take one of the ones already brought back.
This comment section is a nice mix of "I'm a waiter, please don't do this, you're making my job harder" and "I always do this to make the waiters' lives easier"
Checking in at 23 hours - I count one comment to this effect, but even there the caveat is 'but only if you do it wrong'
Waiters have told me to please not stack the dishes because it messes with their carrying technique.
Yes. If you do it incorrectly then there's food on the bottom of the plates now and they can't shuffle it to their preference anymore.
My dad gets legitimately angry when I do this. Boomers are a different breed
Yeah, my boomer uncle told me it was low class after he watched me do it. When I was a waitress at the time. Fuck him and that mentality - I do it to this day and make into 6 figures
That's bizarre to me.
edit: you just unlocked a memory of my mum bollocking me as a kid for doing it. It's so bizarre why?
My dad gets legitimately angry when I do this
I think it has to do with "putting the waiters out of their job". Like, when you do a part of the job for them consistently, the restaurant manager will eventually notice that and realize they can do with a little bit less staff. So they hire fewer waiters, which means potential waiters face a tougher job market.
And for anybody saying "that little bit of support can't make the difference between more and less staff", yes, it can. Consider that a restaurant manager might have already decided to fire a waiter that's a bit less performant (because they struggle to keep up) but decided to keep them anyways, just in case. Now they see that people do a part of the work, and that might just give them the idea that maybe, they could do with fewer waiters, and there's that one lazy guy who can't keep up anyway ...
When I was a server I hated when people stacked their own plates. First off, I found it performative. Secondly it messed with my system. Thirdly it usually produced a 20lb pile of dishes covered in queso, half eaten burritos, and guacamole that was impossible to carry.
Yeah man. I don't stack anything, not because I don't want to help, but I don't want to mess with your system. Waiting isn't as easy as it seems and I absolutely have no idea how to do it, so I don't want to interfere. I prefer to sit awkwardly and pretend that me leaning back as much as I can to make more space is equally helpful.
Huh, me mum was a waitress at one point and taught me to stack for politeness, I didn't realize it was a preference thing. Now I'm not sure what to do.
I'll still keep ordering the queso though, that shit's delicious.
offer them the plates so they don’t have to reach or move around the table and help them stack them when they’re there… pause your conversations and ensure they spend as little time sorting your dishes as possible, and then both they can get back to what they’re doing and you can continue your conversations in private
especially true when there are plates, bowls, and cups of all shapes
exception being it’s okay to pile cutlery on a single plate because that’s always going on the top and if not it’s easy to tip off all at once to restack
bussed tables for years; what are you doing clearing tables as a server?
I liked it when people stacked their shit up, it shaves a few seconds off me doing it before I dumped it in a tub.
As far as food issues - well yeah if they're some kids acting like cretins pouring shit all over that's a problem but what's that got fuck all to do with the stack?
I find your hate performative to be honest.
My wife and I do this, but I've always wondered whether I'm actually helping or just creating a different kind of inconvenience by not organizing them in a beneficial way.
It's helpful! But don't put trash inside the cups - this can be annoying to empty
This and the shopping cart thing share the theme of consuming with less cost to the business owner, but with no actual difference (or making it worse) for the employees. Their boss will use all of their time no matter how much work they do. You aren't saving them work; you're saving the boss' money.
If you decline to go into a business near closing, then you're my kind of people. If you tip highly you're my kind of people. If you order clearly, concisely, and politely you're my kind of people.
But while you're pushing Sisyphus' boulder up the hill, he just has to go find another boulder.
I may tidy up. But I don't stack. I won't even stack at my house, I hate touching the dirty bottom of a plate.
the server and busser will 100% stack them and grab them by the edges of the plates to keep their hands clean, plates generally arent 100% level surfaces and fully covered in gravy so the issue youre imagining doesnt exist
As long as you don't overstack it. Make a tidy stack that can be carried easily with one hand securely. If you eg put utensils between plates you can cause an accident.
I usually have a pack of gum and I deliberately start a pattern on how I take pieces out. Usually it's from left to right, emptying a full row before I move on to the next.
My test is to offer them gum and see where they pick from. Will they recognize a pattern and continue it? Or will they be oblivious?
Either way, it's not a measure of good or bad. It's just a fun lil test.
Sometimes I just take a bite out of the entire kit kat bar without breaking it up.
My family would get upset if you did that or if the server came by and offered to take the empty plate away. Why yes one of them is named karen. How did you guess?
you want me to work for you, pay for everything, and tip you?
At a time when the tipping options are 18%, 20% or 25%.
My test is mostly how do they treat my visibly disabled husband. Who also is older than me and looks it. I don't like being treated like I'm his nurse. I understand why they might think daughter so I'm ambivalent towards that. A lot of people are short and snippy with him because he's harder to understand and that gets me upset.
My boomer mother did this. My boomer father was indifferent.
I do this.
For the record, the only things that get stacked are things that are perfectly stackable, I don't put a plate on top of a half-eaten cheese steak or leave utensils in the middle.
What do you do with your shopping cart when you are done? Do you just leave it to fend for itself in the sea of the parking lot? Or do you do the right thing and bring it back inside or to the cart corral.
The REAL REAL sign though? When someone brings a cart from the parking lot into the store to shop with, ultra move.
Just wanted to put in a counter for what a lot of people are saying in here, if you're looking for a "perfect-clone friend" right out the gate then prepare to be lonely as your tests fail... not because they're horrible people, but because they're a different person with different experiences.
The person litters (like @tiramichu@sh.itjust.works suggested)? Probably see's their entire family litter constantly and never gets comments or maybe even once got reprimanded for saying not to litter to an elder. Just ask them not to when they're in your vehicle, take into account their reaction and maybe have a conversation about it? (personal experience, just let me friend know it was lame and he stopped doing it. But now his vehicle is a roaming trashcan so I guess take what you can get)
You can be friends with people who are different or were raised differently than you, it's actually super beneficial! Now if it's a constant argument or it's turned into a negative experience every time and communication isn't working... it might be useful to move on for everyone's sake at that point.
You'd fail my test if I learn you have tests for people.
Maybe it's just a matter of phrasing, but the idea that I could be kind to our server all night, tip well, generally hit it out of the park, but be disproportionately judged for failing to do this one small thing because it's your personal test? Sets my social anxiety off enough that if I knew that were on your mind I'd probably just say we're not compatible.
Obviously, keep an eye out for shitty people, and don't put up with bad behaviour, but also judge people as people, wholistically.
It says the word 'test' in the post title, but if it helps I don't think you need to take it so literally.
This isn't necessarily "setting up" specific situations for people, but more like how people respond in normal everyday situations which you might consider to be either red flag or green flag behaviour.
For me, an example is littering. I'm not so sociopathic that I'd create some trash just to test someone, but if trash happens and they throw it on the ground, it's a bad personality indicator.
For the first time, I feel seen.
My test for people is dressing plainly, by which i mean, not excessively well. I wear simple and plain clothing and have a plain appearance.
In my opinion, jewelry and cosmetics and all that are all very problematic. The whole feminism movement is largely about the fact that women don't want to be objectified, but then they objectify themselves, i argue. By wearing makeup, you're making yourself a "pretty thing", one whose superficial appearance is judged, which is arguably more problematic than helpful. Like, if you're a woman and talking to a man and you're overly pretty, you subconsciously think that they only talk to you because you look pretty, and that makes you suspicious of them and a little bit angry, which hinders the discussion and makes honest exchange of opinions a bit more difficult. If you dress plainly, don't wear makeup, earrings or any of that, then you can't think that they're only interested in your superficial appearance that they're interested in, so that means they talk to you because of your personality, which i think puts you in a better mood and makes the talking more worth-while. It leads to higher-quality exchanges.
I think people should be able to feel attractive if they want and not be objectified. I don't think men objectify women because they look pretty, I think we do it because we have been conditioned to think of women that way.
I actually prefer when women don't wear tons of makeup, most of the women I date wear very little or none at all. That being said if they ever decide to wear makeup I think it's great because they are expressing themselves. Either way I look at them as people first, even if I think they are beautiful.
I also wear earrings and occasionally a simple necklace. I don't think I'm objectifing myself, just that is how I like to look like. I think the same is true for a lot of women.
I know you don't mean it this way, but it almost sounds like you a validating the viewpoint of certain gross people who ask SA victims what they were wearing.
I think even the most knockout drop dead gorgeous people deserve to not be objectified. And whether I find them to be typically has nothing to do with how much makeup they are wearing or how much jewelry they have on.
If the only reason someone isn't objectifing you is because you dress plainly, that seems like they still aren't good people. I know it is a super prevalent though.
To each their own though. I'm also the guy who thinks people should be able to walk around completely naked and not be harassed or objectified, so my viewpoint isn't typical at all.
I'm not the one who down voted you by the way. I think it's weird to do that to people just because you don't agree with them.
I mean, you could stack your dishes but still be a rapist or murderer.
My mom does this. She has major ocd.
I stack the plates to make room when boxing up food. It gets stacked in the way I would want to carry with the largest and cleanest ln bottom for stability and forks/utentils on top. Don't generally do more than 3 plates in a stack because they might want to rearrange.
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