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[-] Mr_Fish@lemmy.world 25 points 2 weeks ago

Board games. Either just standard board games and chat while you play, or something like wavelength, that's a question, or herd mentality to actually get to know people through the game.

[-] joshchandra@midwest.social 3 points 2 weeks ago

Yes, I've met a bunch of interesting people through board games, and one of them is one of my closest friends now! Facebook and Meetup are the top ways to connect, though I try to also promote the lowly, nonprofit GameNight.host whenever I can.

Anyway, Hard to Get is another, solid cooperative discussion game: it's like Codenames, except everyone is on the same team that's trying to pare the grid down to just the 1 assassin word; the clue giver gives highly restricted, awkward/irrelevant clues about it versus all the rest.

[-] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 20 points 2 weeks ago

Bank Robbery seem quite fun, I highly recommend it

[-] LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 weeks ago

And you geht cool bonding experience for the next 5-20 years!

[-] razorcandy@discuss.tchncs.de 17 points 2 weeks ago

Join a hobby group or club for activities you’re actually interested in. It could be anything: sports, board games, video games. That way you already have a common interest with the others, and you feel less pressure to make friends because you can still spend your time doing what you enjoy.

[-] Libb@piefed.social 4 points 2 weeks ago

100%. Also true for any craft/DIY/manual hobby activity, art (music, sketching, painting), and so on.

[-] Nemo@slrpnk.net 13 points 2 weeks ago

Walking around in the early evening and stopping wherever people are gathering.

I was just popping out for salad greens, and ran across a group of young people having a picnic on the sidewalk. They had way too much food and were offering to share it with everyone who passed by. I wasn't hungry but I sat down and joined the picnic anyway. Great people! I stayed for over half an hour and I'm so glad I did.

And this isn't a one-off. This is how I met my wife, too, sixteen years ago. You gotta be open to spontaneous experiences.

[-] iamericandre@lemmy.world 10 points 2 weeks ago

Rock climbing, go to your local climbing gym (if you have one) and take an intro class and then go hang out once you understand the basics. It’s such a welcoming community and people are really friendly and helpful towards beginners. Gyms also have new climber nights depending on the gym and those are great chances to meet people.

[-] protojefe@lemmy.ca 6 points 2 weeks ago

I second this. Bouldering especially since the climbs are quicker.

[-] AmbiguousProps@lemmy.today 1 points 2 weeks ago

I broke my tibia while bouldering, so be careful and warm up before you go.

[-] Mac@mander.xyz 4 points 2 weeks ago

Yeah, except that it's $20 per visit. Ridiculous.

The membership at my local is still $60/mo (and is about to increase) so it's not much better.

[-] yessikg@fedia.io 8 points 2 weeks ago

Team sports

[-] Drusas@fedia.io 6 points 2 weeks ago

That depends on what your interests and hobbies are.

[-] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

At some point though, you'll learn to like anything if that's where the friends are.

[-] Drusas@fedia.io 7 points 2 weeks ago

I'm not sure I agree with that.

[-] raparperi11@sopuli.xyz 5 points 2 weeks ago

Volunteering or similar work, like lending a hand at small local theater or sports events. Depending on the work they might involve some downtime when you can chat with others and get to know them.

[-] kubok@fedia.io 5 points 2 weeks ago

Another one I have not read in this thread yet: seek out (or organize) activities in your neighbourhood.

[-] missingno@fedia.io 4 points 2 weeks ago

Fighting games. There's a reason the FGC still puts so much emphasis on offline play. Go to your locals, go to majors, don't just sit there playing ranked at home!

[-] DeuxChevaux@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago
[-] joshchandra@midwest.social 2 points 2 weeks ago

Indeed, I lead a choir and a handbell choir at the church where I work; some handbell ringers became very close friends!

[-] Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 weeks ago

Larping works great for me.

[-] LadyButterfly@reddthat.com 3 points 2 weeks ago

Great question! I use Meetup and Bumble BFF. I'm old though...

[-] SolarBoy@slrpnk.net 2 points 2 weeks ago

Meetup used to be great, but seems to be enshittifying more with every passing day.

Are there good alternatives or other ways to find groups to join?

[-] LadyButterfly@reddthat.com 1 points 2 weeks ago
[-] SolarBoy@slrpnk.net 1 points 2 weeks ago

I think the best option I've found is just volunteering in your neighbourhood and asking the people there if they go to any groups or want to do something together

[-] Nosavingthrow@lemmy.world 3 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

You could try DND open play events at hobby shops.

[-] Denjin@lemmings.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

Board Games!

[-] jpablo68@infosec.pub 2 points 2 weeks ago

Chess, book clubs, group running.

[-] Damaskox@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

Dancing. There could be many different styles - see what seems interesting for you.

Boardgame events.

Sporty/exercise events (like, walk with others from X to Y).

[-] garbagebagel@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

I've never gone to one but I have a friend that highly recommends fuck up nights (https://en.fuckupnights.com/).

Apparently it's a group that like meets up and like tells each other how they fucked up at work/in life/whatever. Kind of works like a support group but also helps to develop public speaking in a super judgement free environment.

Not totally my cup of tea but it sounds super interesting.

[-] Goldholz 1 points 2 weeks ago

War (crimes) you'll be bonded for live threw trauma

[-] cynar@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago

You're on Lemmy, so I'm assuming you're of a geeky mentality. If so, a local hackspace/hackerspace/makerspace would be a good bet.

On paper, my local one is a communal collection of tools we can all use. In practice however, it's an excellent social group for fellow weirdos. We just also have some really fun toys to use, when we need them.

https://wiki.hackerspaces.org/List_of_Hacker_Spaces

It's not fully inclusive of all of them, but a good starting point.

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