I need kindness and help with my girlfriend (thelemmy.club)

submitted 6 days ago by religion6614@thelemmy.club to c/kindnesskommunityalt

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I posted about my religion before, but I want that to be my account for my own hobbies and stuff and this for religion and my girlfriend.

She and I are in a Long Distance Relationship, where she is a few years older than me. Neither of us went to college.

I’m Christian and she is also agnostic. We have some similarities and differences. I messed up and said that she’d go to Hell if she killed herself, but I apologized to her. She was mad, but she says she forgives me and still loves me.

I decided I wouldn’t say that again, but I have my beliefs and she has hers. How can we make this work? I also believe that God is the one and only God and that my girlfriend will die in Hell instead of live forever in Heaven if she doesn’t believe him.

She does, though, since she doesn’t know for sure (agnostic theism). I just don’t want her to suffer, please help!

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[-] 0x01@lemmy.ml 6 points 6 days ago

I'm atheist, but recognize that I am not all knowing and may be missing crucial information.

I was raised to believe in the same christian beliefs you have, so I can offer a little insight.

Interfaith relationships are challenging, your view about the fundamental nature of the universe is at odds with your partner's
religion is not based on fact, or math, it's based on faith and feelings. You can't convince someone to believe the way you do
The christian religion has many different flavors, some say the unbelievers are saved through grace, some say you must be baptized and junk. Take heart that even in your own faith there's a good chunk of people who believe your SO would not go to hell despite her lack of belief
it is not your right or privilege to change their beliefs
you may be wrong about her destination, I firmly believe that you are, you may be certain you're correct but so are billions of others who believe something different than you

Respect this person to make their own decisions, respect your god and choose to believe they will not make good people suffer.

[-] religion6614@thelemmy.club 3 points 6 days ago

Thank you 💕 Like I said, I told her she would go to hell but apologized. She was upset because she was suicidal and I was pressuring her, she said, but I still love her ❤️

this post was submitted on 10 Jun 2025

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