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I've seen people consider even 5'7" as short for some reason so i'm curious if it has happened with someone

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[-] BenjiRenji@feddit.org 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I'm a tiny bit shorter than 5'7" and yes, rejected multiple times because of it, but they don't always tell you why, so some of it is speculation. I've dated taller women a few times as well, so it's not that bad. My wife now is a lot shorter though, but I don't think height played much a role for us. If I were much taller we may even be incompatible.

[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago

I'm a tall lady (for my area, though shortest of my siblings), about the average height of guys here, and yeah. Some guys have sounded very accusatory actually - as though I grew tall on purpose to make them feel short. Oddly enough, none of those were literally short guys.

No big deal, I like my height, shorter is not something I've ever wished to be. All 3 of my long term relationships have been with guys about my same height.

[-] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 week ago

I'd consider myself to not care about if my partner was higher than me.
But if I am really honest with me, I do think it would hurt my pride if my partner was taller.
I am totally fine if equal or whatever else size. But I believe if the personality is near total hit and fits mine, I could totally see past that.

[-] Ledericas@lemm.ee 3 points 1 week ago

too many people based it on porn standards, 6'+ and 7-10inches long.

[-] rc__buggy@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 week ago

Only two ladies didn't like my height lying down

HEYOOOOO

[-] selkiesidhe@lemm.ee 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

No but then women tend to get a pass for being short. I don't have much going for me so I feel the shortness lends me a bit of cuteness. I'm fun-sized!

Everyone is tall compared to me so it's kinda funny that I ended up with a guy who's actually tall to everyone else too (6'1).

Edit: 5'1

[-] OceanSoap@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

I'm a 5'7 woman. Yes, I've been rejected a couple times because I'm on the taller side.

[-] LaLuzDelSol@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

Wait really? Are you straight? I'd be really surprised any guys would think 5'7 is too tall.

[-] OceanSoap@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

I am straight. Some men just enjoy shorter women.

[-] LaLuzDelSol@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

Well, fwiw if a guy doesn't want to date you cause you're 5'7 you dodged a bullet. Same with the rest of these superficial "rules". like it's one thing to have a preference but idk why you would reject someone outright over something like that

[-] phdepressed@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 week ago

It was used as an excuse once, they just liked someone else. I was ~5'10"

[-] solrize@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 week ago

There's generally no way to know.

[-] kelpie_returns@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

5'5 and no. It's usually my outlandishly goofy and immature sense of humor that scares folks off, based on what I've been told about it. For context, my favorite podcast is bigsofttitty.png, so....fair enough lol

[-] daggermoon@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

No, but I was rejected because I couldn't drive.

[-] lowspeedchase@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 week ago

I was at a cast party with my s/o (she is in theatre) and all the women were chanting that only short kings were at the party (I'm 5'8) - that's the closest I've been to rejection lol.

[-] SoleInvictus 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I'm 5'6. Yeah. So much. I was rejected like crazy for my height in my teens and early twenties, but I lived in a particularly shitty part of the United States, so I'm not surprised in retrospect. I also dated a ton, so there was a lot of opportunity for rejection. I even remember a woman I was not interested in and had shown absolutely no interest in going out of her way to tell me she would date me if I wasn't so short.

I relocated to a much more progressive part of the country and it hasn't come up once in nearly a decade.

Edit: I should mention it was only an issue with women, I never heard anything about it from men.

[-] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 week ago

Male, 5' 10" / ~1.78m.

For actual first dates, serious to semi serious, or a first genuine asking someone out on a date?

No, never been rejected on account of my height.

For... whole bunch of people at a bar or party, dancing, hitting on each other and looking to go home with someone?

... Maybe once or twice a chick I was into snubbed me for a taller guy?

I've managed to draw some away from taller dudes a few times as well, so... balances out?

...

Possibly worth mentioning that I think I've only ever dated one or two women the same height or even slightly taller than me...

As there are a portion of women who will reject a guy who is too short, I think that also works in reverse and there are a portion of men who will reject a gal because she's too tall.

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