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I posted a few weeks ago about how I didn't feel like quitting reddit just yet. and, honestly, I still have a hard time not opening my phone every five minutes to check it.

but I decided to quit because I realized how much of a negative echo chamber it was. I couldn't even mute certain words on the reddit app so I had to keep seeing the same shit over and over again in the popular feed.

it'll be a long road moving from one platform to another, but I'm pretty satisfied not being strangled by reddit's overwhelming snark and negativity.

dunno if anyone here feels a similar way, but felt like sharing my thoughts.

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[-] Emmie@lemm.ee 5 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

For me the final thing was ubiquitous CCP propaganda and gaslighting even in non political subreddits

There is something very bad happening on the web and I hesitate to think about future consequences. We really need to get that EU army up and running pronto der Leyen.

[-] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 2 points 5 hours ago

Yep it's out of control. There's a lot of research showing extremist groups utilise social media to help spread propaganda, misinformation and recruit people. Cults can be political. It's really scary

[-] Emmie@lemm.ee 2 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

It's kind of disturbing. Usually wars are something we think of as distant, then we go to the web and realize there are state actors, possibly with blood on their hands, doing social manipulation.

I got manipulated few times, maybe more times that I don't even know about. Sometimes I feel like we should turn off all the social media because we can't use them safely. Even knowing all this theoretically doesn't make it better.

One would think that if you are aware of possibilities you can use the internet but there are just tricks to human psyche that work every time and you can't really browse cat images and think constantly about some geopolitics or product placements

[-] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 2 points 3 hours ago

I know and it's scary. Lemmy seems a million times better and I'm so glad I found it

[-] Emmie@lemm.ee 1 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

Well there is hope that Lemmy is too small thing to be worthy of such actions. I entirely avoid any news and politics groups and just read newspapers without comments. This feels like a more sane and mentally healthy approach for me because I can deal with just the news author bias. That's one person instead of judging thousands comments

The worst thing I ever done for my mental health was scrolling and participating in r/colllapse, quitting that made me much happier person almost instantly

[-] methodicinstance@lemm.ee 4 points 14 hours ago

I had the habit to delete my Reddit account after a few months. I couldn't care less about history of posts, likes and so on. So I had a few dozen Reddit accounts over the past years. What strikes me is how easily the "funnel" starts to build up. In the first week you get a fresh view on how Reddit is really like, a few days later you are pulsing with like minded people, amplifying the opinions.

Reddit is still a great source for "how to", but you don't an account for that...

[-] based_raven@lemm.ee 2 points 9 hours ago

Yep. Was on reddit since like 2012 or 2013. Site was so different and a lot better back then. You subbed to a specific sub, you saw the shit you wanted to see. Now everything is completely overrun with politics and they're banning people for absolutely no reason.

[-] Typewar@infosec.pub 4 points 20 hours ago

First comment here, doesn't look like my third party app is working anymore. I really liked it compared to the default Reddit app

[-] decended_being@midwest.social 4 points 20 hours ago

Boost?

Mine too, Thankfully there's a Boost for Lemmy that I like using.

I stopped contributing to reddit after the API shit, but still lurked and saved links. Now I don't use it at all, exported my saved links so I can figure out how to curate them.

[-] maximum_homie@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago

I've been so disappointed with reddit over the last couple months. I put a decent amount of effort in to curate my feed so it was all low stakes stuff - hobby content, casual chats, local events, a couple help forums related to my profession. It was nice to log on for 5-10 minutes here and there and see someone's garden or read about someone documenting their pet's weight loss journey or whatever.

I can't get ragebait out of my feed any more. I block a subreddit and five more with identical depressing and/or rage-inducing content take its place. It's boring and it's bad for my brain. I won't participate.

New here too. Welcome :)

[-] sik0fewl@lemmy.ca 3 points 20 hours ago

Most of the content here is memes or world news. Glad to see more people joining and looking forward to more niche communities!

[-] Flagstaff@programming.dev 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I can't get ragebait out of my feed any more. I block a subreddit and five more with identical depressing and/or rage-inducing content take its place.

The way to optimize is to make a multireddit of only your preferred subreddits and check that over and over again. For example, for me, https://old.reddit.com/r/AutoHotkey+FreeGameFindings+news plus a bunch of other ones, whatever you're comfortable with and enjoy. Be highly selective about what you add to this multireddit and then Reddit becomes heaven because of your awesome filtering.

Because of my ultra-curated multi, Reddit was mostly fine, if not even excellent; I'm just wanting to leave because of its centralization and to support FOSS endeavors.

[-] Inf_V@kbin.earth 4 points 1 day ago

still doesn't change the annoying culture reddit has which is ultimately why I left.

[-] Flagstaff@programming.dev 1 points 21 hours ago

I don't know what culture that is. I guess I have an extremely particular list of subs that dodges that for the most part.

[-] Inf_V@kbin.earth 4 points 1 day ago

"r/allthatisintresting" on popular posts be like:

"THE ULTIMATE CHILD MURDERER. Is sentenced to only one day in prison, judge says it's fine enough punishment for murdering 900 kids"

"local man burned alive by the cartel dies in hospital"

[-] Default@aussie.zone 9 points 1 day ago

I feel like I'll be deleting my reddit account soon. 90% of the feed is anxiety inducing

[-] FrostyTrichs@crazypeople.online 56 points 2 days ago

The initial move feels a bit like you're giving up on an old friend imo. Many of us hoped reddit would change course or stop sliding towards what they've become but it's obvious now that there will be no turn around. The enshitification will continue until nothing recognizable is left.

With Lemmy and the fediverse you have the chance to make it your own and help shape it as it grows, hopefully avoiding the missteps of reddit.

Welcome to Lemmy mate. Have fun settling in to your new home.

[-] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 1 points 5 hours ago

Yep it's got nearly as bullshit as facebook. FACEBOOK. That's something I never thought I'd see.

[-] dumblederp@aussie.zone 2 points 12 hours ago

Feels more like leaving an abusive partner. There were a few nice corners with nice people in them but it feels like bots, AI and ragebait have taken over.

[-] gingersaffronapricat@lemm.ee 15 points 2 days ago

Like everyone else, I miss what it was. Now i can’t connect with anyone there. The tone is so toxic. I largely stopped signing in last fall. It was feeling so gross. But I would still check in from time to time. With yesterday’s messages about censorship, I will not be signing in again. I don’t think it’s a coincidence this is happening at the same time as the take it down policy and changes in approach to cyber security

[-] regrub@lemmy.world 11 points 2 days ago

The switch isn't too difficult imo. I only lurk on reddit for certain communities, but much of the news/memes here are the same or better. The comment sections seem more sincere here too.

Most importantly, no ads and the ability to block users/communities/domains that you don't want to see/hear

[-] rustyfish@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago

The keyword filter also works just fine!

[-] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 11 points 2 days ago

Welcome!

It's a weird feeling in the beginning. For me I was the same, I realized how addicted I had become to it, almost withdrawal from it. But after a while I realized what toll the constant firehose had taken on me.

You'll notice we have less here, I view it as a good thing. Less content, but it's higher quality. I check my phone less but when I do it's less mindless scrolling. There are actual good articles.

Plus as you see I can actually chat with people here, instead the insta-hate I got on Reddit.

So overall, welcome! Let us know if you need directions :)

[-] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 2 points 5 hours ago

Ugh I know. There's always been people online who just wanna fight but reddit just seems to have got nasty. The heart has gone, used to be you got random charity drives starting in comment chains and stuff like that, I've not seen that in ages.

I'm new so would you mind giving me directions? I've noticed there's duplicate communities on different instances. Some of them don't let me join or comment, is it cos I'm not a member of that instance?

[-] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 1 points 2 hours ago

Correct, not all communities are public and federated is the word. I think you're looking for, where you can join the community from any other instance. However, we do try to do those things as public and federated so anybody can join any instance. There are multiples on different instances. It's kind of up to personal preference. Which one you like. Or honestly you can join both, for example, there are multiple movies communities and I'm a part of probably three of them

[-] Sylaran@lemmy.world 9 points 2 days ago

I'm deleting my account right now after 8 years and its kinda scary. Its good to know other people are doing it too

[-] takeda@lemm.ee 6 points 2 days ago

If you want positive space you might also check tildes.net (it is actually run by old Reddit admin and it tries to reassemble Reddit from 10+ years ago)

[-] Irelephant@lemm.ee 1 points 6 hours ago

beehaw is also very positive.

[-] the_eyestalk@lemmy.zip 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I'm having a hard time giving up Reddit yet. I mostly follow smaller subreddits with very niche interests and I really enjoy the community banter. Lemmy is not quite here yet, because you need a critical mass of people to make even the smaller communities feel alive. I'm really hoping Lemmy will take off so I can eventually get rid of Reddit altogether.

[-] Inf_V@kbin.earth 12 points 2 days ago

I had this as a mindset too until recently. I think what helped me move was realizing that interacting with Reddit was incredibly low stakes and I was only going there for hobby and community reasons.

until I sort of realized that the negative outways the positive. it sort of happened recently where I was a mod of a subreddit and people kept acting like idiots after I took a break from the role, and I realized "realistically, nobody will ever actually give a shit about my efforts here." and I took one look and left. I don't really think I lost anything by leaving besides my year old account and 20k karma but, it's superficial at the end of the day.

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