To ammend even further: Health neither stops nor starts at weight in almost any case. Far better strategies for self care will instead look at:

• Cardiovascular fitness (resting heart rate, blood pressure, etc)
• Energy levels, blood sugar and sleep
• Immunity, inflammation, stress

More broad attention to these three rough categories is going to be way more positive than worrying about the single metric of weight or BMI. Doctors may recommend a raise or lowering of weight, but for ALMOST EVERY person that’s only as a means to the end of improving one or more of the broader cardio, energy, and immunity mechanisms.

To add to this: pretty much nobody thinks skinny people are attracted. It's a constructed ideal that many want to achieve, but few want to see in a potential partner.

Source: used to be skinny and bullied for it

Btw it also feels like shit. You're tired all the time, you're cold all the time, when you sit on something solid, like wood, it hurts because there's no fat between your pelvis and the chair, and that'll give you back pain.

Just thought this was relevant because 'it's unhealthy' is sometimes too abstract for people to care

This is the way. Be happy before the skinny strikes.

This has been my tactic for the last few years. Doesn't work for everyone, like my ex spouse couldn't handle it. I keep rough track of calories and if I have a craving for trash I either eat less of it and supplement with low calorie stuff to still feel full, or do a bunch of extra exercise that day

Conversely, though, remember that unhealthy nutritional choices can mess with your immunity, cause inflammation, and really screw with your day-to-day energy and sleep. Nutrition is always a story performed on a much more complicated stage than weight=calories in - calories out! (Though that equation is a good signpost that guides the plot.) See https://lemmy.cafe/comment/9956540

I think there’s a second patty under the cheese