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3 months later back to zero.

People say that dying isn't the solution... But piling this with my eternal single status, loneliness and other problems...

Life is a torture.

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[-] Rentlar@lemmy.ca 14 points 3 days ago

Your strength and courage isn't measured by how many times you got kicked down. It's about how many times you got up. You're not back at zero. You have the experience of this before, and you have gotten out of that situation successfully. It's tough, but you can do it again. Don't give up on yourself.

Get your food situation sorted out. Then if you have no criminal record, look for security guard, desk clerk, concierge type jobs, for example, or temp contract work. From there you can figure out how to shape your life in the way you want it to be.

[-] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 10 points 3 days ago

What were you and why didn't it last?

[-] Hamartiogonic@sopuli.xyz 7 points 3 days ago

Hope this cheers you up 💐

Not much else I can offer right now.

Well, besides some more flowers 🌺🌷🌻🌸🌹🌼🪷🪻

[-] ALiteralCabbage@feddit.uk 6 points 3 days ago

Being single can be massively freeing, especially where work is concerned - you have many fewer ties geographically as to where you can go to find work. If you can travel (car, train, whatever) then you have a great blank slate to work from.

It can be daunting starting again but you just need to handle your shit one step at a time, and you have the luxury of being totally independent.

[-] Platypus@lemmings.world 1 points 3 days ago
[-] ALiteralCabbage@feddit.uk 3 points 3 days ago

What restrictions do you have? I understand that nobody is an island, rather that it can sometimes be helpful to reframe things in your mind.

Obviously there are immovable restrictions (you are a carer to family, or can't leave an area for any number of reasons), but sometimes it can be helpful to view things from a different angle.

[-] Hossenfeffer@feddit.uk 15 points 3 days ago

@Platypus@lemmings.world isn’t here to improve his life. This is at least the 10th post I’ve seen from him bemoaning his terrible life. Any advice he’s given is dismissed as being irrelevant or impossible.

I don’t know what he’s looking for but it’s not solutions.

[-] Maiq@lemy.lol 6 points 3 days ago

Life defiantly sucks sometimes. It gets better than it gets worse, then better again. Don't let the bastards win! Keep pushing through, everything is temporary even your pain.

Jobs and the people in your life may come and go. Usually for the better, sometimes for the worse. Both are learning experiances.

I get it, it fucking sucks right now! Not just for you but for many, even me. You aren't as alone as you think, at least in the life sucking department.

After almost half of a century on this earth I've learned. Keep kicking, always punch upward. Things will eventually get better.

[-] loaf@sh.itjust.works 4 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

People say that dying isn't the solution

They aren't wrong. It fixes nothing that's going on in your life. If you're feeling as though it might, please speak to someone. I know that sounds cliche, but it can help.

single status, loneliness

Being single can suck, but it can also be a perfect opportunity to work on yourself, by taking away the things about your life that you don't like, and working for the things you do.

After my last relationship failed, I started focusing on myself. I've learned so much about who I am, what I want, and what I need. I haven't been this happy in ages.

[-] dicksteele@lemm.ee 4 points 3 days ago

Which kind of job was it?

[-] Lauchs@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago

Sounds like a great opportunity to seek out some therapy and/or career counse.

It's likely free or available through an organization in your area, if you share a region I'll happily find you some resources.

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