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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reactance_(psychology)

In psychology, reactance is an unpleasant motivational reaction to offers, persons, rules, regulations, advice, recommendations, information, nudges, and messages that are perceived to threaten or eliminate specific behavioral freedoms. Reactance occurs when an individual feels that an agent is attempting to limit one's choice of response and/or range of alternatives.

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[-] superkret@feddit.org 103 points 6 months ago

"Could you wash the dishes?" will get an "already on it" out of me.
But if they go with "You still haven't washed the dishes?" then yeah, the dishes are gonna stay there till they learn to walk.

[-] aeronmelon@lemmy.world 53 points 6 months ago

[-] BuboScandiacus@mander.xyz 5 points 6 months ago

Perfect answer

[-] LouNeko@lemmy.world 34 points 6 months ago

In my personal experience this is more of an issue with the commanding person rather than myself who's doing the chore.

If I where to take out the trash on my own accord nobody would even notice. But if I'm commanded to do it (even if I was planning on doing it anyway), then I wouldn't hear the end of it. It will be held over my head that they where so "generous" as to remind me.

So I have any reason to be grumpy about it. If I do it I get no reward, and if I'm commanded then I get shit on. I rather choose the first option.

For some people this is a game of power, they tell you to do something while you're already on it, just to make it seem like it was their idea and it feels like they are trying to essentially steal the credit for your effort.

Or if I'm the one who keeps the house clean and they are the one who leave a mess, and then they have the audacity to ask me to clean up, they can go eat sand.

This does not happen if I'm commanded by a person I respect or admire. Because then it seems like I'm actually doing them a favor instead of bowing to them.

[-] wizardbeard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 6 months ago

I'm going to assume you were raised by at least one narcisist. This hits way too close to my childhood, and I've been out from under my parents' thumbs for well over a decade now.

Good luck getting out, and with the therapy that you seriously should look into. That I seriously need to schedule.

[-] LouNeko@lemmy.world 3 points 6 months ago

I am 100% sure my mother's a narcissist and ~60% sure my dad's autistic. Its not exactly a gasoline and fire combo, more like gasoline and water, which might be less dangerous but still unacceptable.

[-] i_stole_ur_taco@lemmy.ca 18 points 6 months ago

Dammit, don’t you dare tell me to do something I’m already doing.

[-] ralakus@lemmy.world 20 points 6 months ago

You should go doomscroll on social media and watch as the hours melt away in your day only to look at the time and wonder what you could've done instead in the hours spent that you'll never get back due to the inevitable forward march of time closer and closer to the end

[-] Klear@lemmy.world 3 points 6 months ago

OK.

[-] HubertManne@moist.catsweat.com 3 points 6 months ago

Fine. Ill do it but I will be upset the whole time!

[-] mattd@programming.dev 15 points 6 months ago

Also makes me think of pathological demand avoidance

[-] Hideakikarate@sh.itjust.works 10 points 6 months ago

I love Alzward comics. They're always VERY relatable. I especially like his newer style. The other colors are great. I'm a huge fan of the Scientist, myself. Purple is probably my second favorite.

[-] Bach37strad@lemmy.world 8 points 6 months ago

In ham radio reactance is the inverse of impedance

[-] beastlykings@sh.itjust.works 1 points 6 months ago

My thoughts exactly

[-] WhiskyTangoFoxtrot@lemmy.world 7 points 6 months ago

This is funnier if you read it manga-style.

[-] HubertManne@moist.catsweat.com 6 points 6 months ago

I get this. My dream existence is just doing things as I feel they need to be done with no reason to need to seek income.

[-] 5714@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 6 months ago

Flatshares that have to do this are doomed to fail.

[-] randombullet@programming.dev 3 points 6 months ago

I usually say if you have time can you do XYZ? That way if they don't want to, it's assumed that they didn't have time which is fine. They always have a way out

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