former norms of things like modesty, abstinence, chivalry, etc.
These are former norms in the whitewashed version of the past you believe in, but not in real life.
former norms of things like modesty, abstinence, chivalry, etc.
These are former norms in the whitewashed version of the past you believe in, but not in real life.
Of course the norms existed. That's what 2nd and 3rd wave feminism, the roaring 20s and surrealism, the sexual revolution, erotica, and so many other developments were about: throwing off these norms. I'm not saying they were always adhered to, but clearly there were cultural norms that reinforced courting behaviors and made other types of behavior taboo. What I am saying is that we have sort of thrown the baby out with the bathwater.
You think dating would be easier with abstinence and modesty?
I think it would fix a lot of things, yes. Like, honestly men can't be trusted to do the approaching because we're so horny we just approach everyone or nobody at all, and girls can't feel safe enough to mix with huge portions of the male dating base they miss out on if they are aiming to objectify themselves and encourage male lasciviousness. It just makes sense if men would keep it in their pants and women would keep their clothes on. I'm open to new perspectives though.