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I've realized I am really bothered by passive voice in cleaning with people I live with. "I am going to do the dishes tonight" - great "Eric, would you take out the trash tonight please?" - that's fine! I probably would have taken it out if I had realized it was full. I'm an adult and this is my house, I try to keep it clean. "We need to clean up around here!" - What does that mean? Do you want me to clean? Are you going to clean? I thought things were pretty clean, is there something specific that needs cleaning?

Also me and my mom can't live together because we do dishes differently. I am a "fill and start the dishwasher" person and she is a "Empty the sink" kind of person.

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[-] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 20 points 1 year ago

I have a related peeve.

Dishwashers are not dish storage. When the machine is done, you put the fucking dishes away.

Sinks are not dirty dish storage. You put the dirties in the fucking dishwasher so that your sink is fucking clean. The sink is where you either wash things, or get your fresh water. There is no good reason for your fucking nasty ass dishes to be sitting in there for hours or (worse) days. Don't put your fucking milk glass in there with water up grow fucking bacterial cultures. Wash the fucking thing, or put it in the dishwasher.

Lazy motherfuckers fucking up my sink will get a blast of hell so fucking hot, it cooks their bowels. Jesus fucking Christ, were you motherfuckers raised in a fucking garbage dump? What the actual fuck?

Out of anywhere in the fucking kitchen to keep fucking spotless it's the fridge and the sink. You don't shit where you get your water, and you don't piss where you store your food. Fucking barbarians.

You feeling bad today? Sorry, me too, my crippled ass isn't going to fucking wash your shit again, get the fuck back in the fucking kitchen and handle shit.

I swear to fucking gods, people are fucking nasty. I've dumped three gorgeous women because they just couldn't understand that keeping a clean kitchen is central to good health and a well run home. And a clean kitchen is centered around not letting food rot and grow shit!.

Back years ago, my and my best friend lived together, and we kept shit right. Every fucking time we'd try and get extra roommates to control costs, that shit is what kept it from working. Motherfuckers gonna leave shit sitting in my pristine sink I just fucking scrubbed and not think they're getting booted. My hairy, chapped ass

[-] TJDetweiler@lemmy.ca 15 points 1 year ago

Tell us how you really feel, I feel like you're holding back.

[-] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 year ago

Lmao! Im kinda against dishes in the sink ;)

[-] bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 year ago

Strong agree. I hate when people leave their nasty dishes in the sink for someone else to have to grab and either handwash or move to the dishwasher

[-] SpudNoodle@kbin.social 13 points 1 year ago

Unpopular opinion maybe, but my peeve is when men stand to pee. It gets everywhere and is so disgusting. Every weekend when I’m bleaching the walls and everything in the “splash zone” it irks me that guys won’t also just sit to pee.

[-] ericbomb@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago
[-] indepndnt@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago
[-] ericbomb@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

I.... I don't know. But my brain says it's faster?

[-] MaggiWuerze@feddit.de 3 points 1 year ago

Never peed standing up on a regular toilet. Its disgusting. Just sit your ass down.

[-] ArchmageAzor@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago

I hate that thing where you spend time dusting all over and then a few days later there's already dust all over again

[-] bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 6 points 1 year ago

This is why I never dust. Not trying to be Sysiphus

[-] Zarxrax@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago

I often struggle to figure out what products or chemicals work well for cleaning certain things. Anytime I search Google, everything is just "baking soda or vinegar" which never works for fucking shit.

[-] HonoraryMancunian@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago

People who are way too lax with washing crockery and cutlery, including not rinsing off the suds

[-] musicmind333@mastodon.social 9 points 1 year ago

@ericbomb had roommates in college to whom mopping was just rearranging dirt on the floor.

Step 1. Get the mop wet in the bucket
Step 2. Mop the entire first floor
Step 3. Move to the next floor

No rinsing, no emptying/refilling the bucket (because hey, it never got dirty!). All grime just got wiped up, and moved around to the kitchen, living room, entryway, hallways etc. God forbid we had a party and beer got spilled in the basement. I'd be smelling it upstairs by the bedroom for weeks.

[-] ericbomb@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

But... but where did they think the dirt was going if you don't rinse it off in the sink or bucket?

[-] musicmind333@mastodon.social 4 points 1 year ago

@ericbomb they didn't 🙃🥲

Honors college students, too. I have a few stories like this from my time living with them that still bring a 🙃🥲 to my face lol

[-] ericbomb@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

They were taught to mop, but not how/why to mop I suppose!

[-] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

The lack of cleaning, really. When someone makes a mess and just leaves it. I live in a small apartment with 2 other people, and those other two people are slobs. I am the only one who ever cleans up anything in this damn place. 😡 FFS, it's so small there is no reason, even laziness, to justify not throwing away your garbage when there is a trash can within reach of your chair.

[-] ericbomb@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

Leaving trash around is so gross.

Especially rotten food! I just got rid of someone I was renting my basement out to and they had left rotten food all over the place. Like, having an empty amazon box in your room is one thing, but rotting left overs just sitting out? Disgusting beyond reason.

[-] DarraignTheSane@lemmy.one 8 points 1 year ago

That my family will never have any conception of cleaning as you go. They're like that episode of Futurama where Fry had to teach everyone how to litter.

[-] Bishma@discuss.tchncs.de 8 points 1 year ago

Gravity. Why does everything fall on the floor?

[-] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 7 points 1 year ago

It sure beats everything getting stuck on the ceiling. That thing is way harder to clean!

[-] ivanafterall@kbin.social 5 points 1 year ago

If the floor becomes your new countertop, everything starts falling into place.

[-] Starb3an@sh.itjust.works 7 points 1 year ago

Clean clothes are folded! I will not put clothes away that aren't folded. I even attempt to fold my wife's underwear.

[-] Mostly_Gristle@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I also don't put clothes away unfolded. The result is often a laundry basket full of clean clothes, and an ever-growing pile of dirty clothes on the floor next to it.

[-] afraid_of_zombies@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

A cup used once for water. Come on guys!

[-] ericbomb@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Are you team just reuse it, put it in the sink, or just rinse and put it away?

[-] afraid_of_zombies@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

Reuse it. If you drink one cup of water in the morning chances are you will drink at least one more before bedtime.

[-] HonoraryMancunian@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

As in, it annoys you when people don't wash it?

[-] afraid_of_zombies@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

Just use it more than once.

[-] HonoraryMancunian@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Oh yeh that's fine, if not expected imo.

[-] FReddit@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

You have no idea what passive voice means.

But I have gotten into trouble for dishwashing habits. My wife lives 70 miles away, which is probably why she hasn't strangled me over the last 15 years.

I'm totally guilty of using the dishwasher for storage. She and my (adult) kids have chewed me out for this. "But I was going to put away," followed by a kick in the ass .

[-] StudioLE@programming.dev 6 points 1 year ago

I've no recollection of where I first read this: Get yourself a second dishwasher. Never again do you need to put away the dishes.

Always have one clean one to take dishes from while you're filling the other with dirty dishes. Once the other is filled turn it on and now the status is reversed.

[-] FReddit@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

This is a remarkable solution. Maybe I just need to get a second house They're really hard to steal though.

[-] ericbomb@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

Maybe passive voice is the wrong term, but talking in a passive way about cleaning. Don't do an open ended complaint without an obvious solution. Either ask me to clean something specific, or say if you intend to clean somethings specific.

[-] someguy3@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 year ago

she is a "Empty the sink" kind of person.

What does this mean?

[-] mcathen@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

You have a sink full of dishes. OP loads the dishwasher with as much as he can fit and runs it and considers the chore done. His mom doesn't consider the dishes done until the whole sink is empty.

[-] goldenbug@kbin.social 4 points 1 year ago
[-] ericbomb@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

Okay but the trouble rose because my sisters took advantage of this system. We would take turns, and my sisters would "empty" the sink when it would only fill the dishwasher up to like half. Then it would flip to my turn. Then shenanigans would happen to make sure on my turns the sink would be extra full. So I would either need to hand wash a ton, or do a second load in the dishwasher, which would give chance for people to put more stuff in the sink.

If the system was "Your turn is up when the dishwasher is full and running" then there is far little room for silliness when it comes to turns.

I use the word pet peeve on purpose, should I care "that much" about it? Especially now as a 29 YO adult that owns his own home? No, clearly not.... and yet.

Visiting a friend's house.

Him: you want some espresso?

His espresso machine:

No, dude. I don't want dysentery, thank you very much. Clean your machines after every use. The product it makes is a foodstuffs! Blech!

[-] ericbomb@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

Great now I can have a new fear of people growing a colony of something in their espresso machine.

[-] altima_neo@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 year ago

There'd better not be dishes in the sink and Laundry left in the dryer 2 days later

[-] ericbomb@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

OMG my sister would do this on purpose when we were teens. She would put clothes in the washer/dryer, knowing we would "push" them through the system as we did ours. Cause if something is in the washer that is wet when you need to use it, you just move it to the dryer, if something is in the dryer, you put it in a laundry basket and fold it.

But me and my mom realized the flaws in our system when we would fold entire loads of my sister's laundry, but would never find any of ours done! She thought she was slick and would only put her clothes into an empty washer/dryer.

[-] deegeese@sopuli.xyz 2 points 1 year ago

Put the dirty dishes in the sink, not on the counter.

Put the utensils aside so bowls and plates can stack.

[-] Gumbyyy@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Don't put anything sharp, wood, or very fragile in the sink though.

[-] VogonFrost@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Leave my sink empty!

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