The problem is that for many women, sex always runs the risk of pregnancy, and they are actively making it extremely dangerous for us to be pregnant. I can't get a hysterectomy because insurance won't cover it, but I'm not ready to give up on kids yet either. Sure my husband can get a vasectomy but the risk is still there.

I support the 4b movement in theory but when I tried to join I was told I couldn't, because I'm married to a man. Nevermind that he's also a feminist and willing to go without sex for 4 years because he is so scared of losing me to a pregnancy related complication. I was told I can be an ally, and when I took issue with being benched in the fight for my own rights (by people who are not in charge of the movement or the interpretation of its goals,) two different people jumped down my throat.

I bowed out before the argument could escalate, but I can see now how even with the best intentions this movement may further divide women, and the men and non-binary folks who support them. Ideally the 4b's would be like a protest "menu" of actions you can take to drive the point home. Yes, even to the good men who don't deserve to be "punished." Because it's not a punishment. It's us saying okay, either you don't respect us or you're just not willing to fight for us unless things are uncomfortable for you, so let's make them uncomfortable for you. No more free labor, physical or emotional. No more customer service voice. No more explaining things that you can figure out on your own. No cooking or cleaning unless it's for us. Oh you usually change all the diapers? How nice. Now you can do that, and bathtime, make breakfast and dinner, pack lunches, plan birthday parties, buy all the Christmas gifts, host and cook Thanksgiving dinner, do the dishes, keep the house organized and pleasant to live in... you get the drill.

If you're already the one who does these things in your relationship, good for you! But most adult men don't, not because they're bad people but because they weren't socialized to be people pleasing servants and/or sex objects like most women have been.

I'm in support of just a general women's strike, but that's going to look different for everyone.

So ... to shower other progressives with love so pure it makes the incels want to join the movement? I honestly think love's the way to go. Leave the hate for the far right, and show the world the beauty that caring and kindness can achieve.

Unlovable women

while "unlovable" men vote republican, and still cant get laid without a prostitute.

I mean, it isnt like it is the job of women to sleep with men in order to prevent them from becoming incels, that would be essentially like victim blaming at a population level. Im also not really sure that it would do much: most women arent going to do this, so the impact on average men's dating prospects is much smaller than the total lack of dating for any women that actually go through with it, but nobody is seriously suggesting that doing so will turn them into something akin to incels.

I dont expect this would really help much, beyond the obvious personal benefit that not becoming pregnant in a state that is hostile to women's reproductive health would have, but incels were going to hate and complain about women regardless of the sexual habits of those women, so I dont see it really making things worse in that regard either.

Overpopulation is not a problem