Element is pretty good

I recommend Peer Calls as an alternative. Peer Calls uses peer-to-peer communication similar to Jami. You can check out Peer Calls on Github for more info.

So, in short, the things I really like about it:

• Simple to selfhost - Only one Docker container with no dependencies (database, storage, etc.) and you only need to forward HTTP/S traffic.
• Lightweight - You get voice and text chat; screen and file sharing. All of it directly P2P.
• Private - Selfhosting the signaling server will grant you control over the only step which requires a central server during the WebRTC connection process.
• No accounts - Just start using, no accounts are involved.

I do !

works pretty well on both AOSP phones and gnu+linux desktops. Sad thing though is that I don't like using flatpak, and I prefer distro native built software, and on Artix/Arch, there are times where the version between the distro version is slightly outdated with regards to the mobile version, and that makes things not to work. This is mainly an issue ever since jami decided to stop supporting the gtk client on the desktop, to me the qt experience have been sad. Not sure if someone has forked the gtk client, that would be great.

So I'm using xmpp as my main messenger, and keep trying jami when it works.

I really like the p2p approach from jami, and also the way they care for those with no huge batteries phones, given they added support for unified push notifications, which can be of course avoided if required for extra privacy. Given my use case, I can't turn jami into my main messenger yet, but I keep trying, :) Meanwhile xmpp is there for me.

I use Jami and love it. If you want to use it on a de-googled phone you may not get live notifications though, which is annoying if you want to use it for calls. The simplest solution is to allow it to run in the background but it also allows you to use selfhosted push notifications which is cool. I just let it run an accept the hit to to my phone's battery. Jami is fairly easy to use and looks friendly too, which is helpful for getting non-technical friends to join you on it.

I struggled with Nextcloud Talk too.

Highly recommend Jami 👍

I tried to use it, but I couldn't get it working (I couldn't receive any messages, and neither could my brother). In the end, I opted for Matrix instead.

I found it to be inconsistent about receiving messages on Android.

Having good luck with SimpleX at the moment.