I start with the thought that my metamors, as a subset of all people, have already been vetted by people that I love and care about. Starting with that assumption tends to make things go easier. At least that's been my experience.
I think I'm somewhat in the same boat. I've got one metamor that I talk to and is even in my Pathfinder game with my partners and seems to have taken an interest in me.
The others I get along with, but we don't talk too often.
Polyamory (from Ancient Greek πολύς (polús) 'many', and Latin amor 'love') is the practice of, or desire for, romantic relationships with more than one partner at the same time, with the informed consent of all partners involved.[1][2] Some people who identify as polyamorous believe in consensual non-monogamy with a conscious management of jealousy and reject the view that sexual and relational exclusivity (monogamy) are prerequisite for deep, committed, long-term, loving relationships.[3] Others prefer to restrict their sexual activity to only members of the group, a closed polyamorous relationship that is usually referred to as polyfidelity.[4][5]
Other Poly Links in The Fediverse https://kbin.run/m/polyamory@hexbear.net https://lemmy.world/c/nonmonogamy
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