One of my uncles told a story at my grandpa's wake. He was asking the same, for a blessing to propose. Granddad responded by sarcastically asking "what if I say no?"

Way he tells it, he joked back that he'd probably ask her anyway, and with that he had the go-ahead. They're retired, and still married.

Show a little resilience and humor, is my advice. Some families just want to know you can hang with the jokes - though I can't vouch for the quality of the humor, the willingness to laugh things off is rarely misplaced.

I've never had anxiety where it feels like your throat is closing up. Also, it's not going to plan, still waiting. Slow, excruciating waiting

How did it go?

My brother in law didn't necessarily "ask" my Dad. He told him he was planning to ask, and if my Dad had any thoughts on that.

I think a lot of people who are saying it's creepy need to touch grass. It's not at all like bargaining for the transfer of human property... It's like choosing who'll be the first person you tell when you get pregnant. It's a deliberate choice to honour someone by giving them some information first.

Better not do it or at very least Don't get married with equal separation of your things.

Best of luck o7

Good luck!