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Thinking about this because of a greentext I saw earlier complaining about OF models.

It feels like a lot of the stigma surrounding sex work in the modern day (that doesn't just boil down to misogyny/gender norms/religion) is based on the fact that selling intimate aspects of one's self places a set value on something that many see as sacred; something that shouldn't have monetary value.

Not to say anything about the economic validity of a society without currency, but I think that, hypothetically, if that were to exist, sex work would be less stigmatized since this would no longer be a factor. Those engaged in sex work would be more likely to be seen as doing it because it's something they are good at/enjoy, and less because it's an "easy" way to make money, as some think. It would also eliminate the fear of placing set value on social, non sex-work related intimacy (not that those fears were well-founded to begin with).

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[-] Chainweasel@lemmy.world 49 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

It wouldn't really be "sex work" if they weren't doing it in exchange for something would it?
Yes, we have currency as a placeholder for trading goods directly but people who perform sex acts for other goods like drugs are just as stigmatized and no currency was involved.
And if people are just having sex with a fun of it then it's not sex work either, it's just sex, which is less stigmatized now then it was 30 years ago but it still has a stigma attached to it, otherwise slurs like "skank" and "slut" wouldn't exist.

[-] Ibaudia@lemmy.world 4 points 4 months ago

True, but there are more aspects to sex work than just exchanging sex for something else. Creating pornography, for instance, is something some people already choose do just for fun, even without economic incentive.

[-] masquenox@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago

And if people are just having sex with a fun of it then it’s not sex work either,

No, labor stays labor no matter the reason it is performed - people perform labor when they doodle or blow their noses... it doesn't stop being labor just because they're not doing it in exchange for something tangible.

With sex it is the same - nobody engages in it for absolutely no reason whatsoever.

[-] DarkMetatron@feddit.org 21 points 4 months ago

If you get paid for it you are a whore, if you do it as a hobby you are a slut.

The stigma is there, regardless of the money aspect. They will just use a different word.

[-] Carrolade@lemmy.world 21 points 4 months ago

I wanted to disagree with this, but I actually think you make a rather compelling argument.

[-] Squirrel@thelemmy.club 15 points 4 months ago

There will always be exhibitionists and people who just like to fuck, but sex work is, by definition, transactional. You're not going to see a society with free communal whores who aren't being compensated in any way.

[-] JasonDJ@lemmy.zip 13 points 4 months ago

transactional

I prefer "tit for tat".

[-] Ibaudia@lemmy.world 1 points 4 months ago

I was more thinking any and all forms if sex work, however you want to transpose their equivalents in a post-scarcity society.

[-] ValiantDust@feddit.de 14 points 4 months ago

a lot of the stigma surrounding sex work in the modern day (that doesn't just boil down to misogyny/gender norms/religion) is based on the fact that selling intimate aspects of one's self places a set value on something that many see as sacred

The fact that most of the times the stigma only clings to the person selling and not the person buying makes me think that this is actually a negligible part of the stigma.

[-] Ibaudia@lemmy.world 3 points 4 months ago

There are absolutely individuals who shame those who buy these things (think those who make fun of OF subscribers), but overall I would say you're right.

I think a lot of that is the fact that sex workers are more public-facing than their clients, making them targets for stigma.

[-] DharkStare@lemmy.world 13 points 4 months ago

I don't think you'd have prostitution in a currencyless society. They wouldn't be prostitutes at that point.

[-] Plopp@lemmy.world 8 points 4 months ago

You don't need currency for it to be prostitution. Prostitution is exchanging sex for goods, services or currency.

[-] ryathal@sh.itjust.works 4 points 4 months ago

So if I paid in chickens then it's not prostitution?

[-] pearsaltchocolatebar@discuss.online 10 points 4 months ago

Chickens would be the currency in this scenario.

[-] ryathal@sh.itjust.works 4 points 4 months ago

Chickens aren't currency. Trade and currency are two different things.

[-] CoffeeJunkie@lemmy.cafe 3 points 4 months ago

Some bang for your buck-awk, if you will.

[-] Ibaudia@lemmy.world 1 points 4 months ago

There are more forms of sex work than just prostitution, though. Porn, sex surrogacy, etc. People can find those rewarding outside monetary incentive.

[-] Red_October@lemmy.world 13 points 4 months ago

People who have sex with people just because they enjoy it already exist. It's not new and it won't meaningfully increase just because a society becomes currencyless.

Without an economic incentive, sex workers will stop existing entirely. It won't be work, and they won't have any need to do it. They won't be compelled to have sex with you just because you have money now. There will still be people at a bar, club, or whatever who will have sex with someone they like for little or no reason, but again, that's not new.

[-] Ibaudia@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago

Maybe you're right, but I also think that depends on the idea that other aspects of sex work beyond just sex for money wouldn't be fulfilling to anyone without incentive. Creating pornography, for instance. Maybe that's true in an "all work is degrading" type of way. Maybe it's just semantics around the word "work".

[-] givesomefucks@lemmy.world 10 points 4 months ago

What?

A prostitute that isn't paid...

Isn't really a prostitute are they?

[-] Ibaudia@lemmy.world 8 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

There can be other forms of compensation in currencyless societies, so not necessarily. There's also just the personal fulfillment aspect, which is supposed to be the main thing motivating people to work in this hypothetical.

Edit: Other forms of compensation would re-introduce ethical questions, so that's probably a bad suggestion. It would have to be a post-scarcity society, as others have pointed out.

[-] givesomefucks@lemmy.world 11 points 4 months ago

There’s also just the personal fulfillment aspect,

Yeah, that's the reason lots of people have sex for no money...

Like, if there's no money changing hands, it's not a free prostitute, it's just someone willing to have sex with you

It doesn't make any sense to still call them a prostitute.

[-] Ibaudia@lemmy.world 6 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

It does if they formally define it as their career path and treat it as such.

Sex work is more than just having sex with people for fun. There's layers, specializations, and skill to it. Not all of it is strictly physical. Someone might want to just go on a date after their spouse passed away, for instance. Handling that situation requires a lot of emotional maturity and your skill in those situations improves with experience.

Edit: better examples would be sex surrogacy or porn creation.

[-] givesomefucks@lemmy.world 5 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

So. In your eyes...

Are they having sex with everyone that asks?

Or are they only having sex with people they want to for no money, like literally every other human?

Because the more you talk, the more it's feeling like you want a society with public sex slaves.

If there's no sex, why are you calling them sex workers? In your example, it's just sympathy dates?

Seriously, none of what you're saying makes sense. And I know this is a sub for ideas that aren't thought out... But still bro

[-] Skua@kbin.earth 5 points 4 months ago

While I agree with you that I don't think OP has correctly described what they're actually thinking about, there is plenty of sex work that doesn't involve actually having physical sex with anyone. Like a solo porn model, or erotic dancers

[-] Couldbealeotard@lemmy.world 1 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

I think OP doesn't even know what their point is.

They keep saying people will continue to perform sex work if there's no economic gain, but at that point it's not work. Then the counter argument to that is "there's many different kinds of sex work", but the point still stands that having sex voluntarily, being an exhibitionist, or having a hobby of filming sexual encounters are all things that people do for personal gratification and are not considered a career now, or in this hypothetical post-scarcity civilisation.

Like someone else said, it sounds like they are just fantasising about sex slaves. To me it also sounds like OP is overcompensating on the whole "I respect sex workers" virtue signalling.

[-] Ibaudia@lemmy.world 1 points 4 months ago

Other commenter is right, I was thinking more things like creating pornography or sex surrogacy, things that people would find fulfilling and choose to do irrespective of what incentives may or may not be on offer, and would qualify as more traditional "work".

[-] givesomefucks@lemmy.world 3 points 4 months ago

things that people would find fulfilling and choose to do irrespective of what incentives may or may not be on offer

Again, people already do that for free...

Just with people they choose to.

So either you're advocating for sex slaves who feel obligated to do so with anyone, or it's just still normal sexual/romantic activities.

[-] Ibaudia@lemmy.world 1 points 4 months ago

I don't agree, I think it's possible to compartmentalize certain sexual activities as not romantic and also not obligation-based, while still being fulfilling and work-related in a post-scarcity society. Like helping clients overcome sexual insecurity or barriers with sex surrogacy, for instance.

[-] thejoker954@lemmy.world 7 points 4 months ago

So instead of being a 'whore' for money, Jane can be a 'whore' for a meal? Or a whore for a new dining set?

Unless we are in a post scarcity world there will be 'currency' even if it's not 'money'.

Anything that made sex transactional would just be more of the same old shit we see today.

[-] Ibaudia@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago

True, it would have to be post-scarcity to be ethical then.

[-] Skua@kbin.earth 6 points 4 months ago

It seems like you mean a post-scarcity society rather than a currencyless one. Sex work done to earn a living is still done to earn a living if it's in a society that distributes goods and services in another way. I'd hope that the sex worker in question is getting personal fulfilment from it, but unless their basic needs are covered regardless then it seems foolishly optimistic to assume that it's the case

[-] Ibaudia@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago

Post-scarcity is more accurate for what I was imagining, yes.

[-] essell@lemmy.world 9 points 4 months ago

There's evidence for this.

Trans priestesses attended temples in Mesopotamia and were very highly regarded.

[-] El_guapazo@lemmy.world 6 points 4 months ago

You're looking at this as an economics issue. But I think it's a fundamentally a biological or evolutionary artifact. Evolutionary biology has intraspecific competition for access to mates to mating opportunities as a driver for change.

Organisms work to prevent the resource from being exploited just like water, habitats, space, etc. It's other women that would lose if access to mating opportunities are tied with monetary transactions, and a few would benefit. Minimizing prostitution helps the female of the species be more selective about their mates, and increases the "value" of their interactions.

[-] Nougat@fedia.io 5 points 4 months ago

I don't think it matters whether the exchange of value involves currency or not.

There are things that most people find to be unethical to "sell" (exchange for value in a transaction). Those include actual human beings (slavery), military or political influence (bribery), and murder.

I believe that sex work in often included in that list because of a lengthy deep history of protection of "bloodlines." Of course, there has always been sex work, but those who offered such services - especially women - were by definition unconcerned about their own "bloodline," which must then mean that their "bloodline" was not worth protecting. That meant that providers of sex work were necessarily "lower" people.

Today, and especially in the global West, the notion of "bloodlines" is more associated with bigotry than high status. That's why we're calling it "sex work" now instead of "prostitution," for example - and sex work is more socially acceptable now, even if it's not super high on that scale. Because that cultural thing about "bloodlines" is well-entrenched and runs very deep.

[-] Cobrachicken@lemmy.world 4 points 4 months ago

Interesting thought. I think most issues stem from bigot assholes who consume the produce but are not allowed to due to their background/upbringing/social "norms". And those within their normative set not willing to provide, because of the same background/upbringing/social context.

Also, w/o currency there will be other forms of compensation, like a certain amount of work time, or... (p.e.) a handful of apples... due for a certain set of services.

Additionally there is always a percentage of plain idiots who would socially not be able to ascertain this kind of services w/o paying, and these seem to need to demonize the servicer to feel better about themselves.

Sry if I busted this comment, brain is fried after work.

[-] masquenox@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago

places a set value on something that many see as sacred; something that shouldn’t have monetary value.

I'd say it's the other way around - because it's labor that is (mostly) being performed by women (or stigmatized as something "only women do") it's considered to be of no value whatsoever. How many women do you know that performs work such as housekeeping, child-rearing and/or marital sex essentially at own cost because this type of labor carries no monetary exchange value in our society?

I'd say sex work falls into that category - but it gets stigmatized because sex work can actually allow women to escape such labor and not be locked into literally playing housewife to the capitalist mode of production (ie, wiping a company man's arrse so that he can concentrate on making capitalists richer).

[-] FrostKing@lemmy.world 1 points 4 months ago

It really depends on the culture of the area, but yeah overall it'd probably be less stigmatized on average. It would certainly be stigmatized though—some people forget that many people consider sexual acts in general (that others can see, like posting pictures on the Internet, porn work, etc.) wrong in the first place. A lot of people online don't interact with these people a lot—not necessarily because they 'don't touch grass' but because these are often the people who chose not to be active in social media. When you consider that they see a woman posting a steamy picture of herself online as wrong, it makes sense why.

Many people have grown up with a very conservative (sexuality wise, at least) mindset, and that's just the way they were taught to see things.

I think that because of that, it's not unlikely that a large portion of people would still see person doing these things, even if not for monetary gain, as "sluts" or something similar.

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