I love dating girls that haven't seen anything. Movie nights at home are a great way to chill.
The thing is, the reason I haven't seen anything is because I'm not interested and don't have enough of an attention span to sit through stuff I'm not super into, so any time someone I've dated has been like, "we can watch so many things together!" my response is no thank you.
You're missing out on the hanging out part of it. Cook food together, put the movie on, Talk about anything you two want, pay attention to whatever scenes they really think is cool. It doesn't matter if you pay that much attention to it. You're being together.
People who are "into movies" don't tend to like it when you talk through movies...
That's a caveat I inform people of beforehand. I am really into movies, but I have very discriminate taste, so I don't watch very often because movies are generally dogshit. All my friends know, I will watch anything with them, but I'm going to talk mad shit the entire time. This is a really fun group activity in most cases, and often helps less informed people see through the bullshit that is modern media, but sometimes there's someone who doesn't get it, or needs to hyperfocus on the screen.
That signifies to me:
This person doesn't understand the point of hanging out in a group
This person falls for blatant marketing
We will probably not be good friends
I was with you until you started trash-talking people who enjoy media that is specifically designed to be enjoyed.
Can you believe this guy over here is enjoying something that was engineered for the enjoyment of the greatest number of people?!? What a maroon!
I always find it interesting when someone states they don't enjoy an activity and one of the first responses are to subtly guilt the commenter for not enjoying an activity.
I've been losing interest in movies for the past 15-20 years and being guilted into enjoy something I no longer enjoy for someone else's expense does not sound like fun.
Fortunately there are plenty of activities to do together. As you mentioned, cooking together sounds great to me. So does walking in nature. I especially love playing music for each other because I love hearing what other people listen to.
Humans are wonderfully complex and there's plenty in the world to for us to enjoy.
It's like when you tell somebody you're an introvert and they start giving you tips on how to talk to others and "open up" like you're broken.
I've lost interest in movies over time but maybe for a different reason. I far prefer TV shows these days, especially sci-fi and fantasy, because for me the point is the escapism. With movies there's just not enough time for the level of immersion I'm after, with rare exception (Lord of the Rings being the main one, but that was more of a miniseries in movie trilogy form). I want to escape into the world and get to know it, what the rules are there, what it's like to be there.
Yeah but we can do that without the distraction of a movie or show on in the background. Plus, a lot of people really, really want you to love the thing as much as they do, so if you're not into it, they take it kind of personally, and I'm rarely into it. I don't show people movies I really love anymore (unsolicited) after realizing that I'd spend the whole time worrying about what they think of it instead of just enjoying it.
Honestly, I love making friends with people who haven't experienced some of the really incredible pieces of pop culture, because I get to see them react to seeing something incredible for the first time. Your reaction should never be "omg you've never seen this before, what kinda weird alien are you? and more "omg you've never seen this before? okay we have to watch it real soon, it's incredible."
It's only really annoying if the person is some kinda incel who has made it a point of pride to be uncultured and refuses to watch or appreciate good movies/TV.
What about someone who truly does not enjoy watching TV or movies?
I understand I'm in a very small minority. However watching TV shows or movies doesn't interest me at all.
Watching TV or Movies to me is like having stare at a blank wall for 3 hours and forced notice how the faint cracks on the paint spider along it for the entire time. Afterwards I'm supposed to feel like it changed my life or it was somehow an enjoyable experience.
It's absolutely not my cup of tea.
I don't hate anyone for enjoying them either. I'll listen to friends or family talk about things they watch. I enjoy seeing how much they enjoyed watching it. It just doesn't interest me in the slightest.
I've never met someone who doesn't enjoy movies and TV series at least to some degree. What do you not like? Is it fiction, or stories in general? Do you like documentaries? Podcasts? Books and audiobooks? Role playing games? What about music? What kind of stuff do you do for a living? What do you do during downtime and in your free time?
Sorry if I'm coming on a little strong, I'm just very curious.
I'm not a huge fiction person in general, most of the books I read are textbooks/technical manuals or other non-fiction.
Some documentaries are fine, it's highly variable based on the subject matter and how much the director tried to make it "movie-like".
I'm not a fan of music most of the time, I only really listen to it when I'm exercising. It's basically to set the vibe for my brain.
However I do play role playing games quite a bit, which for some reason my brain has decided is not boring.
Podcasts though, make my brain release that sweet, sweet, dopamine drip... I listened to something like 52 days worth of podcasts last year? Again most of the topics are the same as the books I read.
I do consulting, so podcasts fill the void between meetings, if I need to taking a break, or as an escape hatch so if I have a particularly hellish client, I don't fire them.
I don't particularly like having "free time". If I'm not being productive, my brain goes "Ah, I see we decided on depression as our option. Magnificent choice sir!" I basically have to scratch a particular itch my brain wants me to scratch to maintain my mental health.
Which is partly why I'm in consulting, it scratches that itch and I get paid so it's kinda a good gig.
There are two types of people in the world, those who will belittle you for not knowing what they know, and those who will be excited that they get to expose you to new knowledge. Date the second type.
Ooooh yes, and the other way around too. I’ve watched an absolute assload of apparently obscure bullshit, but absolutely never the same obscure bullshit people want me to have seen.
This is my experience being gen z dating any millennial. I'm honestly jealous that they got to experience films in a more communicative and iconic way.
I think growing up with live TV made a big difference too. All the big movies/shows that were cultural touchstones for generations would be playing on repeat on one channel or another, so millennials would be randomly exposed to them without extra money/effort put in.
Nowadays, I don't know how people who have grown up in the streaming era are supposed to find these movies, short of following a watch list, seeking out the right streaming service, and probably dropping some cash.
This is a really good point. There are a lot of iconic movies I haven't seen in one go but I've probably caught every scene from family flicking through channels all the time.
I agree! I like how we're continuing the thread in a different comment chain. I'm this guy: https://lemmy.world/comment/10422461
It's nice to talk to someone who seeds content. It's been a while.
I can quote stuff from TV that aired in the late 90s, but I can't quote shit I watched last night. For me the distinguishing difference is smartphones. I don't have the attention span to give a TV show my undivided attention anymore, and I'm browsing on my phone while TV plays in the background.
Probably controversial opinion for some people: I've only ever seen one Star Wars movie (one of the original ones) and some of parts of other movies and I think the franchise is totally overrated.
If you didn't see them as a kid, then you definitely won't understand why they're so popular. When you see them as a child, then they're the coolest thing in the world, especially if you saw them back in the 70's or 80's when they were groundbreaking movie making. What I don't understand is how people continue loving them, like being completely obsessed with them, into adulthood. I wish I could be that excited about them as an adult, but they're pretty juvenile movies for a lot of different reasons.
The movies really aren't anything incredible. Luke loses practically every fight he has, the dialog and CGI in the prequels were horrendous, and the sequels... yeah. I don't think most of them are bad movies, but for how popular it is? I believe Star Wars is held up quite a bit by how cool a large chunk of it is. Vader looks sick af, and laser swords are badass.
But there are some really good TV shows, games, and, from what I hear, comics as well. I think the movies are probably the weakest part of the Star Wars universe.
So what you're saying is we should start a reaction channel on YouTube?
/j
My gf used to be in that boat. I'm a big film guy. The first few years of our relationship I spent catching her up on the more important things in life.
My GF thought Trek was something her mom watched. Now she's debating the finer points of canon with me because I caught her up.
After 20 years with my wife, I still have weekly “you haven’t seen X?!?!?!” moments with her. The amount of films she hasn’t seen is staggering.
(conversely, the amount of time I’ve wasted watching films is kinda scary)
"I did not care for The Godfather."
"It insists upon itself"
...this is one of the big ones that I haven't even seen.
Same
For some reason I won’t watch dramas, but if you dress one of the characters up in a rubber alien suit and then slap a sci fi tag on that bad boy I’ll eat it up
I know right? I've been spending way too much time trying to get people here to watch "Barbie" (now available on Blu-ray and select streaming services) for like a year now.
It's a good movie, if you haven't seen it yet, go watch it.
Thanks, Margot. <3
I have no idea how to even talk to you. I speak mostly in reference and meme! Shaka, when the walls fell.
My SO I'm sure makes it a point to mention something that she knows I haven't watched just to say "oh wait you haven't seen that"
You've never seen Breaking Bad?
You've never seen The Godfather?
You've never seen Arrow?
You've never seen Pulp Fiction?
You've never seen The Incredibles?
You've never seen Alien?
You've never seen Game of Thrones?
You've never seen Stranger Things?
You've never seen Hook?
You've never seen Treasure Planet?
"LEAVE ME ALONE!"
I'm worse, I never finish. I stopped watching game of thrones with 3 episodes to go.
Good place to stop, from what I hear.
Don't bother.
Or they base their entire standpoint on it based on YouTuber brain rot "reviews" which just summarize the movie.
There was a guy in a discord chat I hang out in that never got any joke or reference because they were adamant about avoiding anything popular.
Ok... But now you can't join in on the conversation like 90% of the time because the rest of us are watching, playing and reading the same stuff and talking about it. Probably why I haven't seen him in the chat for months. 🤷🏻♂️
I've seen a bit of most popular shows, if only to form an informed opinion about them.
Most from my early adult years (mid-1990s) are so terrible that I stopped watching TV entirely.
Why is that a bad thing? You could watch them together
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