the dickishness is likely due to that last paragraph:

I'd guess the shitty comments are from people dismissing this as a pile of buzzwords, hopefully if they can understand better then they'll be less shitty :)

this makes it seem like the fault for the chuds behavior relies on op for not being clear enough with their labels, as opposed to with the chuds deciding that someone's chosen self descriptors are somehow incorrect.

this is not helped by how bigots excuse their behavior as just wanting a Fair and Rational Discussion™, ignoring that what they want to "discuss" about is the validity of someone's whole existence.