I know what you mean there as well. I was always very arachnophobic but over the last few years have mostly gotten over it by treating the spiders in my house as something like hands-off pets and giving them names. Jumping spiders are amazing little creatures but, yeah, the lifespan makes them a non-starter.

If you like sci-fi, check out the Children of Time series. It's about a race of uplifted jumping spiders. The author does a great job of building a concept of their society based on their current characteristics as a species.