I don't think any fascist leader would fit conventional standards of attractiveness.

I think that's part of what drew them into fascist thinking, the idea that being "the great leader" would make da wahmenz respect them finally.

I don't think it's a coincidence fascism came into existence so soon after women's rights did. The autonomy and personhood of women is something the fascist inherently contempts, and their ability to say no is something the fascist resents above everything else, the idea that there's work they have to do to earn a woman's trust and respect instead of just being able to buy her off her father once he's successful enough.

This is related to but not entirely the same as the impulses behind the cries of family values among the American christian right. That is more about the idea of literal patriarchy than the individual grievance some incel has with the break with it.

Patriarchy is the mythologized past that fascism seeks to return to in a frustrated reflex to the idea that the fascists have been "cut off" by moves away from patriarchy when they "did everything right." They view it as the same kind of frustration as people who studied at university only to find themselves stuck in minimum wage work, because they feel the same entitlement to control over a family unit from being a good little christian boy that a student feels to some promise of a career for completing four years of specialized study.