No, because lemmy ISN’T PRIVATE FUNDAMENTALLY, it’s a PUBLIC FORUM I do not know what else needs to be said, don’t post public things if you want privacy.

A public form doesn't mean it can't respect privacy. Why even allow delete at all in Lemmy if this is your argument? Make comments immutable. It would be easier to code.

Lemmy is also aware of your IP address - should it make that information available since it's a public form? Of course not, that would be absurd. When I click delete the post should be deleted because that aligns with what the user would expect to happen.

You have no way of knowing what tildes actually does, you just know what the code on github says it does, unless you’re running tildes yourself, you have no way of knowing.

Yep, but that's also true for pretty much all Lemmy instances including the one you use - right? You have to place some level of trust in the maintainers and administrators.

I think the way Tildes handles deleted posts (removed 30 days later) is a benefit when compared to how Lemmy handles deleted posts. I'm fine if the delete isn't instant.

This is not a fundamental issue, this is a growing pain, and it’s solved by just linking somebody to an instance instead of explaining all of that, this is opt-in complexity, not a fundamental problem.

I agree that it isn't a fundamental issue, but it does seem to be a reoccurring issue in federated software. The process for getting people onto the software tends to be focused on tech savvy people. That's why a lot of these platforms end up dominated by IT/software developers.

Yeah, that would be better, or you can just link non-technical users instances and explain none of that.

That requires 'recruiting' someone to a specific instance instead of them finding it on their own. That's not an organic process. Nobody recruited me into Reddit - I found it myself.

If I Google Lemmy my top three links are:

1. Wikipedia entry for Lemmy Kilmister
2. Join-Lemmy.org
3. Lemmy Github repo

None of these are specific instance someone could join. There isn't a single instance in the first page of results. There are some variations of words that I can use that direct me to lemmy.ml first, but the signup page for that instance literally asks you to go to joinlemmy before signing up.

We need to improve this process if we want people to continue migrating to federated services.