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Is "female" offensive?
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Female as an adjective is perfectly fine.
A female patient, a female politician, a female customer, etc. That's the best way to refer to those.
What's bad is using 'female' as a noun: "A female. "
In general, you just don't use adjectives-as-nouns to refer to people. You don't call someone "a gay", "a black", or "a Chinese". That is offensive, and "a female" has the same kind of feel.
(there are exceptions to the above: you can call someone 'an American' or 'A German", but not "A French". I don't understand why - if you can't feel your way, best just avoid it)
Now, you could get around it by calling someone "a female person" - except that we already have a word for "female person", and that's "woman". And to go out of your way to avoid saying "woman" makes you sound like some kind of incel weirdo, and you don't want that.
I'd just like to emphasise this. It's not that using a different term is intrinsically bad, it's just that the people who tend to do it are not cool and you don't want to look like you're associated with them.
When I was growing up, saying woman was offensive, because it made people feel old. So we would say "girl". But now It's flipped. Saying "girl" makes people feel too young, apparently.
I'm still kind of adjusting. The word "woman" still feels icky to me because I was berated for saying it as a kid.
Huh, interesting. Which generation are you from, out of curiosity?
I'm a millennial. It could also have been regional as well, I have no clue.
It's ridiculous that a perfectly fine word is seen as insult used by a certain type of people.
If it has negative connotations, it's not a perfectly fine word.
Negative connotations to whom? If those described do not like the term it should not be used. Basic human dignity, just like using one's preferred pronouns.
I don't think you're disagreeing with me here.
The VP of product messaged me a couple weeks ago after some back and forth about some work. She asked if I had some time to talk about the final solution. I went "uhhhh so long as we don't call it that"
I'm like 90% sure she had no idea why that phrase is reserved.
Welcome to language my friend. Always has, always will.
Interesting point with adjectives vs nouns.
'a Frenchman' would be more correct than 'a French'. Because French is only an adjective, while American and German are both nouns and adjectives. But Frenchman is not gender neutral like German or American.
Could go with Francophone, but that's any french speaking person so that includes canadians, africans, etc.
And, it would seem to make sense to go with Frank, but the Franks were originally germans, then expanded their territory to include France, and the name stuck there but not in their original territory, so is it really correct to refer to the French as Franks? Since no one does it, I would guess not.
Not a native speaker here. Would a French woman also be 'a Frenchman's and if not, how would you refer to a French woman correctly?
3 years ago, “man” in that context was considered gender neutral. More recently tho a lot of stink is being made about little language things like this. Theres no replacement word to use.
Wow, this actually sounds very plausible.
Frenchwoman and Frenchperson are both ridiculous enough to try, but maybe go with Frenchie just to see if they'll punch you.
"Frenchwoman" perhaps? But that sounds a bit dated to me. I'd probably go with "French person" or "French people".
Sounds more like a terf or "gender critical" person, but maybe that's just my experience.
Fair.
Unless you're a ferengi. /s
I think a big part that's skeevy to me is that gender and sex are comparatively unimportant individual traits, referring to someone by their gender happens far more often for women and it's a hold over of misogyny. There are much more interesting individual traits that identify us than our sex or presented gender.
My wife tells me that using as an adjective is just as bad and that I should always say "woman", e.g. a woman politician and never a female politician.
I generally disagree and it seems fine and not disrespectful at all. But it's somehat less up to me - I'm not a female.
Using a noun as an adjective is just weird, honestly.
I think that a good rule of thumb is: would you say “male doctor” or “male politician”? If not, is the professional’s gender relevant? Probably not, in which case it sounds pejorative to include it.
In some cases I would, and I would find it awkward to say "man doctor" or "man politician". I don't think it works at all, and I disagree with her that this really is the way most people try to avoid the naming.
But, kinda like pronoun; I guess I try to listen and be sensitive on things like how women and minorities saybtheyre sensitive about, including labels and etc.
"the suspect is a six foot, white male"
Sounds fine to me
"I was just visiting my friend, a six foot white male"
A little weirder. Context is everything.
Cops (ACAB) are not a good example for moral treatment of others.
I think that's because the descriptors come after the noun in reporting. Similar to how documentation is done for other professions, like healthcare. If it's out of the context of reporting, or other situations listed in the site below, it sounds grammatically strange or rude.
https://myenglishgrammar.com/lessons/adjectives-function-as-nouns/
Source: I'm in healthcare.
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Because the police never try to dehumanize "suspects" and "perpetrators".
You can soften "a black" or "a Chinese" entirely by adding "person" to the end of it. English is weird.
Right, because that makes it an adjective.
That's werid because in french that's not what we use in everyday life. We say "Un japonais" for example, not "Une personne japonaise" which kinda sounds unnecessary
And that's why I say "bruh"
I'm probably the only person to not use that word like a frat douche, I just like calling my guy friends bro and I tried calling my female friends bro and they didn't find that funny so now everyone gets bruh'd
I'm going to nitpick a touch. "Female person" includes girls. "Women" ecludes them.