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submitted 9 months ago by alexiascylding to c/196

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[-] theneverfox@pawb.social 1 points 9 months ago

Their stance sounds more like gender abolition...

It's basically "we made up gender roles, and they're useless and harmful. Let's just get rid of all of it, and let everyone express themselves however feels right"

It's the only end goal that makes sense... Adding more labels helps people understand the box they've been forced into, but ultimately we just need to move past all of it

[-] Sop 1 points 9 months ago

Yes, and that’s a trope that’s often used to invalidate the experiences of non binary people. We live in a society where gender does matter a lot and telling someone to stop caring about their own gender because it’s a social construct is transphobic. You can argue all you want about the meaning of gender, just don’t use it to invalidate nb or trans people, which is what the person I replied to was doing.

[-] theneverfox@pawb.social 1 points 9 months ago

I don't think that's a fair reading of what they said at all

Gender is indeed irrelevant at all times. It doesn't exist. It's a set of expectations you impose on another person and have imposed on you... Realizing I don't have to explain anything to anyone is my personal answer, I just need to stop forcing myself to pretend.

Gender roles exist, but only to people who believe in them. You can break them at any time. You don't need a category, you can just be you, moment to moment.

I can't think of a more accepting position for non-binary or genderfluid people... Some people need external validation, but ultimately it's about how you see yourself