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How are you expecting him to feed himself if he can't work anywhere? There's no such thing as a men's only work place.
I agree that rape should be charged with the same severity as taking a life. But we also need to let ex felons leave that in the past if they can. There's a lot of abuse and oppression that results from permanent shunning. We made the choices in our justice system that we made because of history. Let's not repeat the mistakes of history.
I respectfully disagree. Murder is not at the same level as rape. Rape is awful and despicable, but at least you're alive to recover from it.
That's the thing, many people never recover from rape.
I think more people don't recover from death compared to rape
I'm not arguing that lol. But many people would literally rather be killed than raped and it's frequently cited as one of the things, "worse than death".
It should absolutely be punished similarly.
That sounds like a great way to make all rapists murderers.
No. There's a psychological barrier to killing, even in the mind of a criminal. That's why most murders are actually people who knew each other and had enough emotion to overcome that barrier or people who were scared/abused enough that the barrier was no longer there. (It goes away as a defense mechanism)
Many is not anywhere near all.
That is an option for the victim in a rape still, there is no option for the victim in a murder.
But it is possible to recover, and many do. There is no recovery from being murdered. Personally, I'm glad I'm still alive even if I'm still dealing with my own SA-induced trauma 20 years later.
Murder also has further externalities. When you kill someone, you take them away from their friends and families, who now have to live forever without that person in their lives.
But this whole conversation feels a lot like we're asking "who was worse, Hitler or Genghis Khan?", and it's weird to put either side on the defensive even if there is an objectively true answer to be found.
Yes, but statistically speaking the amount of people who recover from murder (being around 0 to 1, depending on if the Resurrection of Christ is a factual event or mere myth) is a tad lower than people who recover from rape induced trauma...
I think this attitude where some traumatic event ruins people for life is toxic. Trauma is part of life. People can move on and have fulfilling lives.
"Trauma is part of life"? Murder and dieing is also part of life. Sorry, but that just doesn't make sense. Trauma in a clinical sense is certainly not "part of life".
I can't send a corpse to therapy for any amount of time that's long enough for them to recover from being dead, I can say differently about being traumatized..
And honestly as someone who's used therapy to recover from trauma, I find the idea that "It would unquestionably be better if you were murdered instead" to be so absurdly offensive and dismissive, as if anything of value to me and my continued existence is suddenly moot because I've become "Damaged Goods"
Seeing Murder as preferable to Rape is a highly misogynistic way of thinking that draws too much from patriarchal standards about a woman's worth.
Death is always an option, revival generally isn't.
There is no reason why rape is judged much less severely than torture though.
What the fuck does that have to do with anything?
You are advocating a known sexual predator be allowed in the workplace, knowing other employees are threatened by his presence.
The company isn't responsible for ensuring the rapist -- who is not supposed to be in society in the first place -- is able to put food on the table. It is the company's responsibility to protect its workers in th workplace, and that means not letting a known rapist work around women.
Honestly, those women could probably go complain to the EEOC. They certainly could win a civil suit.
What you're asking for is horrific and a blatant violation of the rights of other people. We don't live under the barbaric practices of the 20th century where anything like this can just be done to you and you have to put up with it. We live in the 21st century where we recognize the rights of victims and communities are more important.
Don't like it? Do what you're telling rape victims to do: get over it and move on.
Women aren't the only victims of rape. Clearly he shouldn't be allowed to work around anyone right? Actually he shouldn't be allowed to live near anyone who could be at risk either. Actually he shouldn't be allowed to go near anyone who could be raped. I think the Soviets already tried a prisoner only island and it didn't work too well.
I never said they did.
Like?
A lot of fears are valid, but that doesn't necessarily justify acting on them.
That was true during his prison sentence. Now as much as he disgusts us, he has served his punishment and has his rights again.
What does this have to do with me?
They can quit, they can force the employer to fire him, or they can tolerate it. Fundamentally, there is nothing he can change now to make himself more tolerable to his coworkers, and its not his employers job to punish him again.
How?
Why is this the argument? Why can't I have the option empathize with someone myself- why does it have to be a surrogate? But my mom was hospitalized 2 years ago after assault by a student who she still works with. Of course its terrifying know that could happen, but that's why safety measures are put into place at her work place.
Where did I apologize for rape? All I implied was that under the law he had served his time. He is now allowed to exist in society. If you believe in mandatory minimum of a life sentence for rape, that is a debate that can be had. But just like murderers, kidnappers, torturers, terrorists, and other horrific criminals, rapists are sometimes given a chance at freedom again. But you should separate wanting to protect people, and wanting revenge. Wanting revenge is a motive for criminal justice, but don't try to hide it with an argument about protection and rights.
Okay. Let's just keep all the prisoners locked up forever. Well wait, that's kind of expensive. Let's force them to work. You know they're going to have kids, and both parents are no good evil people so the kids must be too. Let's never let the kids out either.
Congratulations, you've re-invented chattel slavery. With the exact same argument of banishing felons from society that was used in the 1600's and eventually evolved into chattel slavery.
Can we do the civil war now too or do we have to wait?
You got shit backwards. War is now. Deny or don't still happening.
This isn't a civil war. I've seen a civil war. And this is nowhere close.
Any reason or just being a blatant idiot?
Or we can accept the past actually does matter, protect our communities and offenders can be the ones to accept the short end of the stick.
You know, like a sane society
If you don’t allow people to have second chances, then recidivism rates skyrocket. Being tough on crime creates more crime (and more prisoners).
Look at the Scandinavian prison model. Reform is what ought to be the focus.
But in the US, recidivism is kind of the goal. After all, we need to keep the for profit prisons full.
For profit prisons are creepy and ought to be illegal, but they're also a small percentage of US prisons. They're not to blame for the high prison population. They're another symptom.
If you dress up enabling rapists, who do not belong in the community, through flowery rhetoric, you deny that second chance to everyone else.
Society doesn't owe rapists anything. It owes everyone else their safety. If the rapist doesn't like it, they should not have raped anyone. If you don't like the fact that your rapist friend is ostracized from the community, you should stop being friends with rapists.
This is why we need to throw rapists in jail for life, and quite frankly, to start jailing their enablers, so communities can rebuild and the trauma from those acts can heal.
When did the person you responded to say they were friend with rapists. When you resort to ad hominem attacks on peoples character, you're signalling to everyone you have already lost the argument and have nothing of value left to say, just take the L.
What kind of society are we going to have if we do that though? Societies with forever punishments are worse places to live specifically because it ends up being used as a weapon. It gets easier and easier to get that forever punishment because this exact argument gets deployed for lower and lower offenses. Your three options are slavery, banishment, or death. And it's usually for an ulterior motive like votes or money. Humans have tried all three in the past and they've all led to more heartbreak and violence than they've stopped.
A sane society wants and works towards peace. You get peace with rehabilitation and treatment.
Sounds more like a backwards medieval society than a ‘sane society’.
Most modern and sane societies have a concept of rehabilitation and have found that we are all better off when a justice system is centered on rehabilitation and addressing the roots of crime at a deeper level, beyond just punishment, punishment is not very effective on its own.
How can you say all that when you don't even know what the victim was wearing?