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My limitless desire for information always gets hindered by my very limited memory. (social.beaware.live)

submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by BeAware@social.beaware.live to c/adhd@lemmy.dbzer0.com

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My limitless desire for information always gets hindered by my very limited memory.

There's nothing like the ADHD experience of going to google something and immediately forgetting what you were going to search so you have to look through your recent apps to find whatever triggered the thought, but then get distracted in the apps, then just rinse and repeat.😩

@adhd #ADHD #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #neurodiverse #neurodivergence #ADHDmemes

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[-] fishos@lemmy.world 1 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

You don't have limited memory, you have limited attention span. Stop telling yourself you have bad memory and force yourself to put more effort into taking in info and not just passing over it. Things like names are a good example. I used to always say "I'm terrible at remembering names". But I also wasn't really trying. I was leaning on that phrase as a crutch. When I started putting concentrated effort in, I found that suddenly I was able to learn and remember tons of names.

Another trick is to keep constant To-Do lists of various time frames. Like one for today, this week, this month. Put things in the appropriate list based on urgency and then check the list whenever you're unsure of what you need to do. Always put things on the list immediately. Use tools to make you're life more manageable. Don't lean on "well I have ADHD so this is just how I am, oh shucks". You can manage these things, it just takes time and effort to learn how.

[+] BeAware@social.beaware.live 6 points 9 months ago

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[-] fishos@lemmy.world 2 points 9 months ago

I mean, I was only officially diagnosed at age 9 and have received numerous forms of treatment and therapy my whole life. But sure, shit on the guy trying to give you some advice that they learned themselves.

This is why I hate all you self-diagnosed twats. You don't want solutions, you just want something to lean on and point to as justification for your treatable and manageable behaviours. But nope "lol I'm just quirky!"

Grow up and take responsibility for your own actions and stop acting like some mysterious hand is hovering above you controlling you instead. You'll actually find that many of the things you "couldn't" do, you in fact, can. You're your own worst enemy and you don't see it.

[-] OxidantZero@lemm.ee 2 points 9 months ago

You're coming across as if you're saying that all anyone with ADHD has to do is try harder and their symptoms will be gone.

I would like to imagine that you're actually trying to say that there are strategies that can help with improving the symptoms of ADHD and that finding and doing ones best to employ these strategies is more productive than just complaining about these symptoms.

Unfortunately though, ADHD is a chronic neurodevelopmental condition which is characterised by its associated symptoms. These symptoms will never disappear as a result of 'trying harder'. If that were the case then the diagnosis of ADHD wouldn't exist.

Simply telling someone with ADHD to put more effort in is insulting and can be quite hurtful.

It is also unhelpful to single out those who might be awaiting diagnosis as 'self-diagnosed twats'. Since you were quite young when you were diagnosed it's understandable that you likely do not know what it's like to go through the diagnostic process as an adult. The constant self doubt and imposter syndrome that nags away at you while at the same time you know that the symptom list reads like a brutally honest biography. Having others look down on you just because you haven't yet received the diagnosis yet is very hurtful, unfair, and unnecessary.