Yeah a lot of these things are so baked in that it might seem hopeless that it can ever change. Not giving a fuck helps on a personal level, but that's easier said than done for a lot of people. In any case, even if we can't fix people's minds, we can still correct things like designs to try to send the message that at least some of us are considerate and accommodating. Of course, some people get angry and lash out when we do make even small minute changes, such as the anti-"woke" people upon seeing a LGBT+ person in media.