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After a lifetime against, I'm considering joining social media. Any advice? (lemmy.world)

submitted 10 months ago by Nobody@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I've never had a Facebook account or any other social media. I know they keep shadow profiles, but I've never given permission. I never had any interest and frankly still don't.

The problem I'm having is that I don't exist online when people try to look me up. When someone tries to check me out, there's nothing there and apparently that's considered abnormal these days. I think it's starting to affect my life negatively for various reasons I'd rather not get into.

I'd just like some advice about where to start if you wanted to dip your toes in and check it out. LinkedIn, maybe?

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[-] stoy@lemmy.zip 13 points 10 months ago

I have never had a social media account under my real name, apart from Linkedin, which is just there to show me for possible employers.

When I google myself, I only get results about my address and my Linkedin profile, so I do atleast exist.

As for advice about joning something like Facebook....

Stay away from politics.
Don't just "like" random stuff, be selective and only "like" stuff you really enjoy.
Do not engage with dickheads, people will be mean to you, block them and move on, don't engage, you can just leave.
Stay away from politics.
Never post photos of your kids/family without explicit, preferably written, consent.
Be open to take down any photo of a person if said person asks you to.
Stay away from politics.
Avoid posting content about vacations before and during them, bruglers have been known to use that info to know when a house probably is empty.
If you are a woman, please be extra careful posting images of your face online, people have and will continue to take faces of women in particular and photoshop them into porn, it is sad, but is a reality.
Be mentally prepared for a lot of hate, whatever you post, you will sooner or later annoy someone online, or even just come to attention of certain people, and they will swnd you hate filled messges, block them and don't engage.
Stay away from politics.

[-] otter@lemmy.ca 2 points 10 months ago

Great advice, and thank you for answering the question :)

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