Keep in mind that it all started 20 years ago with Pulseaudio. Pottering was not really a nice guy (on mailing lists ofc, I don’t know him personally) whose software I wanted on my machine.

Poettering is like Torvalds: gruff when pressed, but not wrong.

PulseAudio is like systemd: dramatically better than what came before, and the subject of a great deal of criticism with no apparent basis in reality.

PulseAudio did expose a lot of ALSA driver bugs early on. That may be the reason for its bad rap. But it's still quite undeserved.

Additionally, it was looking like tactics used by proprietary software companies to diminish competition.

This is a nonsensical argument. Systemd is FOSS. It can and will be forked if that becomes necessary.

Which, in light of recent changes at Red Hat, seems likely to happen soon…

Problem was never speed or even technical, problem was trust on original author and single-mindedness that they were promoting.

That's because fragmentation among fundamental components like sound servers and process supervisors results in a compatibility nightmare. You really want to go back to the bad old days when video games had to support four different sound servers and the user had to select one with an environment variable? Good riddance to that.

I want solutions to come from community and nice people

Then you'd best pack your bags and move to something other than Linux, because Linus Torvalds is infamous for his scathing (albeit almost invariably correct) rants.