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Maybe we have a slight misunderstanding about CBT? CBT I'm referring to is "Cognitive Behavioral Therapy", not exposure therapy. I hope the exposure therapy was beneficial to you though. :)
Basic CBT I'm talking about is a talk therapy modality where the patient is trained to observe the cycle between their thoughts, feelings, and actions, and pay a bit more mindfulness to how they react to things.
I don't wanna bash it! But my point is, sometimes men in particular are not raised to understand or differentiate their emotional feelings on a deep level, so this talk therapy alone doesn't really give them something "actionable" to start solving the problem when you keep getting asked:
"So how does that make you feel?" "Bad?" "Why?"
It can be helpful and it certainly helped me! BUT alone, it also has a blind-spot where it's not as helpful to the way men experience the world. Usually much more externally, and less "pondering feelings."
I know I'm not articulating this the best way, there's a lot of nuance, but I'm glad it's started a productive discussion!
I'm merely saying it can be better, not trying to tear it down. :)
Lol funny how we seem to be carrying on different conversations in different threads. Anyway..
So first, sorry if the smilies come off as passive aggressive. I just talk like that because I'm emotive, and it helps to convey a cordial attitude on an increasingly hostile internet. ^_^
Second, basic disclaimer, not a psychologist, sooo...
When I see papers like this, I'm inclined to believe CBT and exposure therapy are different techniques, if they're being compared as such. But of course, the same practitioner can use different techniques and tools with the same patient.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3347982/
But hey, if I'm wrong and this source is wrong, cool. I'm happy to learn something. To be frank, semantics don't super interest me though.
So about men in therapy, my evidence is both personal experience, and secondhand reports from psychology professionals I don't know personally, and isn't gonna be revolutionary and mind-blowing.
I feel like my therapy experience between two or three therapists was...ok. But I very often felt misunderstood, and like there was a fundamental misunderstanding as to what I was on about at the root of the whole thing.
So, afformentioned Dr. K has a good video about this (YouTube link, dunno how to share as Newpipe) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uf8bt6fGQyA
Found a thoughtful blog here that resonates as to the reasoning. I think he's making sense. https://www.saltcitycounseling.com/post/why-do-men-do-so-poorly-in-therapy
And I can't find the particular episode, but these fine folks discuss it sometimes. https://www.youtube.com/@itsnotjustinyourhead/
It's an unpopular opinion, but people in general, even psychologists, either see no real reason to particularly understand men, or worse and more rarely, actively find them repugnant.
Hope this helps.