cross-posted from: https://lemmy.perthchat.org/post/256639

I find it to be more understandable when I imagine if girls would be obsessed about my armpits or smt. Like I don't really want anyone to fuck me in my armpit and it generally doesn't bring me any enjoyment to have it.

So when I find people to be obsessed with it, am like flattered i guess? -- but am much more interested in the person than them thrusting my armpit... But since all they want to do it and I don't really care about it -- hell, do what you must and then we can talk. Maybe we'd like each other

But then, when all the opposite gender wants is to just thrust your armpit, you be like um... boundries, man, private space please!

so you start to say no which makes opposite gender insecure and sad

I feel like basically men and women simply has different meaning of being a slut. So I think they do want intimacy and affection but they're absolutely not ready to satisfy males' desires for raw sex or whatever have you

it's like this sexual edging game where you don't let your partner to cum, same but they wish this to be done to them but more intensely and less sexual

Like women like to flirt and pushing boundries of flirting -- and there sex is clear downside to this relationship. Since once you banged, the flirtation is mostly gone

Basically they do enjoy to stroke their ego, to appear more beautiful, better, popular, desired than they actually are -- same as with men, but in their own feminine way.

But sex there just isn't part of this process. They'd much rather prefer you'd cum in your pants just by seeing them than to actually to have you thrust their leaky, sore hole

it's really a hassle to maintain a v-jay-jay: it does leak unexpectedly, it bleeds, it smells not great on its own, lots of visits to doctor etc