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I might really misunderstand what patriarchy means in this context. But I'm using the definition "a system of society or government in which men hold the power and women are largely excluded from it".
I don't see how this is relevant to the "masculinity that gets taught to men", as this idea is also perpetuated by women, so I don't see how having a matriarchal or neutral society would fix this.
It seems to be more the result of the expectation that men need to be providers and protectors, which can be an expectation regardless of if the society is patriarchal or matriarchal or neither.
Sorry if I'm being ignorant. I'm just trying to understand better
To my mind the central mechanism for systemic control by the patriarchy is enforcement of gender roles. Men should be like this, women should be like that. Of course there will be ideas of masculinity in any society, patriarchal or not, but I think the aggressive enforcement of those roles and punishment for deviation from them is specifically an aspect of patriarchal systems.
On top of that, given the systematic exclusion of men from child rearing, re teaching elementary school, babysitting, or even parenting while male is all but criminalized in the Western world so nearly no men serve in those roles, I'm left to question who is responsible for "the masculinity that gets taught to men."
I think unfortunately over the past 50 years the "masculinity that gets taught to men" comes from movies and TV shows.