Didn't say they were perfect, and didn't say their actions are your fault. I did say YOUR actions are yours, and yours alone.

And, dude...that's the only thing you can control. Frankly, whether you are right or wrong in the views you've stated is irrelevant. All you're gonna accomplish is twisting yourself up inside over things you cannot change.

Most importantly, if you use other people's choices as an excuse to be a shit person, that just guarantees a pattern of lose-lose scenarios in your life. If you're trying to be miserable, then go for it. But if not, well, you can only control yourself; all other "power" is an illusion.

Another way to put it: the only problems that matter are the ones that are yours. Other people's problems or choices are just a distraction; that shit ain't gonna take you anywhere. At least not anywhere you want to be. If you're not satisfied with something in life, that's on you to figure out. Blame is useless - it's not a solution, it's a trap.