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what would Reddit need to do to get you to go back
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I've only been here for a day, but the lack of homophobia and transphobia here compared to Reddit has been a breath of fresh air. I'm not afraid of posting here like I was on Reddit, where I'd actually have to debate with myself for a minute or two before posting. It's like finally leaving a bad relationship; now I'm starting to see how bad that all was for my mental health.
Use the report button if you see any of that too, we will not tolerate it here.
Reddit thrives off of letting homophobes and transpbobes ruin everyone's day, because it drives up their engagement numbers. We aren't going to allow that here.
That's a real relief to me. I see enough of that living in a very red town in a red state. Online communities are one of my only ways to talk to people who don't want me gone.
There are lemmy instances hosting that kind of scum... but your instance can defederate (block) that whole server. BeeHaw does it pretty proactively.
This is so relieving tbh its mindboggling to me why all these massive sites never took a stance against homophobes/racists/transphobes like this. its been proven to hurt profits when hate is allowed on any site as people dont like being abused like i swear it cant just be that the CEOs were complacent although its sadly a dumb enough reason to be true.
Also been loving your app Dessalines its been great so far :D (if you tab out of the screen while writing though it does delete text but that aint a real issue though lol)
Thanks! Ya spending any amount of time on reddit or in youtube comments is a hair-pulling experience.
Huffman was always a white supremacist libertarian (and one of those ultra-rich preppers
Oh my lord was he one of the idiots that tried to get a study on how to force a militia group to serve them after an apolcolapse? I remember that story from years ago
Yep. My personal "favorite" quote from that article is incredibly telling of how spez thinks of himself.
“Being around other people is a good thing. I also have this somewhat egotistical view that I’m a pretty good leader. I will probably be in charge, or at least not a slave, when push comes to shove.” - Steve "spez" Hoffman
Wth no wonder he stayed off the site I think half of Reddit would drop kick him for being in a thread
It's so interesting to me to hear things like this, because I have to guess you're in completely different subs than I was / am in. I never saw anything like that, but I also don't recall seeing very much "cesspool" on reddit either. Of course, I only went to 4 subs regularly and a total of maybe 15 ever?
Which is kind of the hard part for lemmy is the "niche" stuff (like photography is much smaller here, and the main photo sub is like one or two pics per day, so we really need something like ITAP or photocritique), multitools, etc.
The worst of it, by far, is of course the front page. But some of the subs I can think of off the top of my head where I encountered trans or homophobia are r/Science and even r/Pathfinder2e (if you know anything about the Pathfinder universe, this might seem mind boggling). There was pro LGBTQ+ support in many of these subreddits, but there was always a comment or a debate or whatever in every queer related thread.
The subreddit for the state I live in, while generally supportive, has numerous comments debating my right to exist as a queer person in most threads even vaguely LGBT related. It's frustrating knowing I could basically only find refuge in LGBT subreddits. Everywhere else, there was always someone making a jab or starting an argument. It's exhausting.
Wow - I'm so glad I never got into the front page at all, or looked for subs based on location. I always thought that was a Facebook thing (and I don't use facebook). I suppose the only place I would have seen anything like that was in changemyview which is where you go to have an argument anyway.
I joined my state's subreddit to keep an eye on local happenings. Our news outlets aren't the best, so it was a good way to hear what was going on. For the most part, it was a good community. But there was always a handful of people who had to argue equal rights every time it came up and it was disheartening to see the same hate every single time.
Apparently I should get into photography, because your experience on Reddit sounds so chill! LOL
Well, we just argue a lot about sensor size / format, is Canon or Sony better and how many thousands of dollars we spent on cameras and lenses. Many people have opinions. I guess it's not attacking anyone's identity, unless you think Sony Fanboy is a critical part of your person. Kind of like the IT OS wars lol.
But yes, that and like multitools - we're arguing about Victorianox vs Leatherman... These sorts of subs are pretty chill, and not a lot of drama that I can remember. I think things that are about something you're a fan of, rather than location or very broad seem to be a lot better experience on reddit. And sadly, these are the communities I mostly access on my phone via RedReader and that I either would be spamming or just confusing many members if I said come on over to the lemmyverse. There are some standalone forums from long ago though that still run, so I might have to go over there if I care enough.
I'm all for a good debate. I frequented the technology subreddits since they're related to my work and I love a good OS or language debate. I've learned a lot from hearing other people's arguments. So that all sounds like friendly banter to me!
I do think the smaller the subreddit, the safer you are. Most of my best experiences are in those subreddits. I just found myself wishing I could explore Reddit a bit more without walking away bummed out by all the hate. It's hard finding a good subreddit.
I can imagine that - I just never really felt the need to explore reddit, which might be my loss, and also why I don't get a lot of "how reddit is". I'm painfully out of touch for being so online (never did facebook or twitter at all), and really prefer stuff that is open...
So I'm aware I have a weird view of the online world - but I guess it's also why I'm incensed about killing third party apps. I hate the change away from protocols where you could choose how you interacted with the net to products where the UI changes on a whim, usually for the worse, and you're "running in place" just to do today what you did yesterday. What pisses me off the most is there's no reason the world needs to be this way - Companies sold new cars every year without swapping around the pedals ever other year. Most home improvements are improvements but aren't changing the UI for the house. LED bulbs don't actually require an app for instance. We've had chainsaws for decades and even the electric ones work the same way and look about the same.
I don't know why computers and the net can't be like that. Why can't I use Thunderbird or Vivaldi while you use Outlook and Firefox but we aren't cutting each other off? This is why I like the fediverse. It's why I liked IRC, and e-mail. It's one of my main reservations about even otherwise good tools like Signal.
And it's not like usenet providers or e-mail servers don't make money. But back to my main point that people won't pay for access, though I think if we went back to something more like usenet where you paid for "all the groups" rather than on a per site / per forum basic might work or again get bundled with your ISP like email and usenet were.
I've been through a lot of social media sites over the years. MySpace, Facebook, Twitter. I think you've got the right idea avoiding them all at this point! LOL
And I 100% agree regarding third party apps and open protocols. I tried several Reddit apps before Sync really grabbed me. I thought it was so neat having so many options, something I hadn't seen since the early days of the internet. And then Reddit had to ruin a good thing and take all those away.
I do think the fediverse has the right idea. We shouldn't all be crammed into a single "one size fits all" site. Now we just need some good apps to go with it!
For me, you are perfectly describing my move from Twitter to Mastodon. It was such a relief and I am currently in a much better headspace. All because I moved to Mastodon.
You deserve some good internet points!
Oh geez. Twitter is such a nightmare. I had to quit last year when things started getting bad. I haven't dipped my toes in Mastodon. Has your experience been much more positive? I'm scared I'll end up stuck in a bad server!
I've been on Twitter since '09, so I've seen a few things ;-)
But, I friggin' love it! The people I follow (and follow me back) on Mastodon, are super chill. It's like S-tier! It truely is.
If you are worried about being stuck on a bad server. Mastodon nowadays has a "covenant" which basically revolves around the following points;
So as long as you pick one of the servers there, you are pretty much golden. The server list can be found here: https://joinmastodon.org/servers
I am on mastodon.online (one of the servers by Mastodon itself) which has been a blast, but I can also vouch for mstdn.social. The admin of mstdn.social, "Stux" is a super great guy!
Is my understanding correct that from certain instances of Lemmy I can also access mastodon's federated links?
Actually, as long as the Mastodon and Lemmy servers are federated with each other, you can access Lemmy from Mastodon (and the other way around). If they aren't federated yet, you can 'force' that federation by visiting a community via the search engine. That should start the whole federation process, unless of course either one of the servers has decided to 'defederate' with the other server.
But in Mastodon you can use
@community@serverin the searchbar, and you will see all the responses on Mastodon. So for example,@lemmy@lemmy.mlor@Technology@beehaw.org.Is it possible to federate the whole site, or do you have to do it by community specifically?
Federation is always done on instance level. What I mean by that is being able to communicate between instance A and instance B. Whether or not data is actually being shared from instance A to instance B depends a user on instance A is subscribed to a community on instance B (or vice versa).
I hope that clears up a few things :)
That's a relief to hear. There's been a Twitter shaped hole in my heart since I quit. I think I'd been a Twitter user since my freshman year of college and I'm in my 30s now. LOL
You've convinced me to give Mastodon a chance! Thank you for your reassurance. It really does sound like what Twitter should have been.
I can completely understand that hole in your heart ;-) You've basically been on Twitter as long as I was. LOL.
It really is and you are welcome! 😊
This would be huge. The first instance I joined on lemmy has been down now for a few days. Don’t even know how to reach the guy that runs it. It was not some super small one based on the site recs at the time.
I’m a sysadmin by trade and considered just building my own but don’t have the time to solo run it should it gain traction
Yeah! I can also imagine Lemmy introducing something like that. As a somewhat 'soft' endorsement of a particular server.
I think setting baselines like that, would improve servers a lot and sets out standards within communities.