I have a problem with all of them telling others that they are sinning if they don’t remain abstinent until marriage and even then never use protection or birth control and obviously only the hetero kind is allowed in both cases.

I have a friend who is a gay man and was happily out of the closet. Then his mom died and he blames himself and his “deviant” lifestyle for her death. As a result, he turned to hardcore Catholicism and is at church every day atoning for his “sin” and trying to lead a life of abstinence. It’s fucking disgusting how much he’s changed in just a few short years because of this ancient bullshit.