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Being a new developer and ADHD
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I mean, if motivation is the problem not much can help with that.
But in my case, its memory. I literally cannot consistently remember what I'm doing. So that's what the system is there for... at least solving the memory problem.
My psychology teacher points out that habits are very different from higher-level brain stuff. You might not be able to solve the motivation problem per se, but you can at least grow a habit to work off the list consistently. Building new habits is something well within the means of everybody (even those with physical damage to their brains who have lost a fair amount of functions). So "trust in habits".
Habits aren't motivation. But they're still something that (if you build up and work at it), will consistently get you to check that list over-and-over again each day. And that's enough. But its not easy to build a habit. And remember, habits aren't motivation, they aren't memory, they aren't... a lot of things. They're just that, a habit. That nagging feeling that you should do something (like closing a door when you leave your house. You've gained the habit, right? I'm sure you've failed before at it, but ADD / ADHD folk can gain habits)
Yes, it’s true the few things I have habits for are the ones I can do pretty consistently, not 100% of course, and sometimes I get the feeling after I already walked out the door and have to go back and check lol. I do agree that habits and schedules and stuff can be really good for people with adhd but they are also really difficult to self- impose. I used to have a sticky note posted in my house somewhere prominent to remind me of some things I should do every day, like drink water, but eventually it gets moved or passed over or I’m in a hurry a few days in a row and it’s gone. I’m not trying to be defeatist, I know there are strategies to help, and I appreciate any and all advice, as I’m definitely in need of some changes.