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Have you ever been accused of something that wasn’t true, yet you had no way to prove your innocence? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago by Lifecoach5000@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I’ll start. Teenage me driving up the street to hang out with friends at the mall and passed my younger neighbor and his mom. When I got back a couple hours later, the neighbor’s mom was livid - confronting me for the slight. I seriously had no idea wtf she was talking about and I couldn’t convince her otherwise.

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[-] shasta@lemm.ee 13 points 1 year ago

Sorry to say that this behavior is usually projection. He may have feelings for some of your friends and feels guilty about it, and wants to know if you feel the same way so he doesn't feel as bad. In his defense, he may not even realize he's doing this. Worst case, he may be cheating already. Either way, it's toxic behavior and I just wanted to make you aware that it's something you should discuss and work through before it becomes a bigger problem.

[-] CookieMonsterDebate@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Yeah I don't think he is projecting in that sense, but I do believe he has really bad abandonment issues, that is making him "see" things that aren't the case, maybe to have a reason to push me away before I hurt him, too... I'm not sure what to do, he's so convinced that I've betrayed him already, and even if the offense is not real, the pain clearly is, and I'm not sure there is anything I can do to reassure him. It's so painful to watch (beyond the hurtful accusations..)...

I appreciate you looking out for me, friend!

[-] shasta@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago

Sorry to hear that. I know what that's like. The best you can do is keep up the reassurances and hope he can make it through this rough time. Encourage him to go to therapy and maybe get medication. In the end, change is up to him. Good luck.

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