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How to deal with bullies?
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Sadly I can not give you good advice. I always pushed back hard but that didn't help either and gave me a bad reputation with some teachers too. The only positive thing I tell you is that in my experience the higher you go in education, the idiots who do things like that get rarer. The only thing that helped me a little was finding nice people who were also on the fringes. Once you are part of a group, bullies are more careful.
You are right, somewhy bullies became rare as I aged. Which is why I was surprised they still existed when I was in conscription. They don't grow up and stop bullying. They don't change. We were friggin adults, and they formed a cliché and entertained themselves by back-talking anyone who didn't fit. Or steal stuff from them.
So why higher education has less bullies, I don't know. I would like to imagine they aren't intelligent enough to take the education path I did, but thats probably just a revenge-fantasy.
Bullying is a tactic to raise your own perceived worth by stepping on others. I think most people who have any real talent or education don't need that. Also, it is not universal, but intelligence makes introspection more likely.