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Bumble is the only mainstream one I know for certain is independent.
It's not technically independent since Badoo (owned by Bumble) is a very popular dating app too. Those two apps/companies have a weird history (Badoo's owner funded Bumble), but Bumble was also started by an ex-Tinder employee.
And looking at their Wikipedia entries, Bumble seems to be publicly traded with Blackstone owning a significant portion of the company. Bumble also bought Fruitz (another dating app) a few years ago.
Fun fact about Bumble:
Initially, only women were able to start conversation after matching. This 'feature' was removed recently.
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/article/2024/may/04/a-lot-of-effort-to-get-one-date-bumble-app-makes-womens-first-move-easier
Lol. Lmao even.
I've met my current girlfriend via bumble, back in early 2023. As a man, I was extremely annoyed at how many women would match with me and never send a message, felt like a full 2/3. Seems like half of them skipped the "you, woman, are supposed to start the conversation", never understanding why none of the men ever sent a hi
That sounds like a huge issue.
It was.
My gf was one that initially didn't understand that dynamic and nearly lost our match, she had to be told by a friend (that recommended her use the app in the first place) that she had to send the first message. Dunno how much could be the app's fault, it does state during profile creation that women make the first move, but it probably didn't put any other reminders afterwards.
Other dates I went out with also had similar stories of not paying attention to that message.
Tried Bumble. Got a match with a woman whose interests seemed fairly similar to mine, seemed like a very cool person overall.
Couldn't message her and the match expired because they only last 24h or something on Bumble and I believe you can extend once (for 24h).
Stopped using the app shortly after that.
At least on Tinder I'd get matches. Mostly low quality (by low quality I don't mean the person... I mean that we just didn't have much in common), but they existed and I could message them.
Bumble removing that means it's perhaps now usable for someone who's not super conventionally attractive, but has enough personality to kick off a conversation. But it also means that now it's just the same as all the other apps.
Whelp, this was a rabbit hole I was not expecting. Talk about optics!
The Bumble IPO was when I knew online dating as a business was done. Look up the stock and pour one out for anyone who bought it five years ago.