Sure, I get that and it can be difficult to find a match who's down with that. They gays have Grindr for that, with filters and labels and shit. But even that gets toxic for some gay men.

I think we still have to deal with the fact that this kind of fishing can make 20 people feel shitty for every one that enjoys the attention. I also think there should be limits on where and how much this behaviour is acceptable.

Like, clearly if everytime you wanted to work out it would get at least annoying if, as an extreme example, you had a dozen women interrupt your workout to ask if you'd be up for eating out their asshole, because it's hard to find people into that. I don't know what you're into, but assuming you're not or even put-off by ass-eating, I imagine it'd start feeling shitty real quick, especially if you've been guarding against women leering at you like you're a potential ass-eater since you were 12, or that one time your date drugged you at the bar and you woke up with her ass on your face.