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this post was submitted on 23 May 2026
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A couple things in the way you explained yourself lead me to believe you might benefit from improving your soft skills. Not everything in a job is specifically technical. If you work with people, you have to learn how to work with people. You don't have to enjoy it, but it makes things easier.
Yeah, soft skills are the grease between the gears. And when you have a really good team, it can be genuinely pleasant to spend time with them. I genuinely miss my team back home.
Where I'm currently working away we go out for a meal after work every month or so. If the mood is right we'll get drunk and do karaoke, too. It's really brought the team together - the slacker puts in a bit of effort, the stickler has loosened up a bit, and my nervous protégé has more confidence to ask for help.
Agree, from what you describe, @ricesoup@lemmy.ml, you have trouble reading the situation so you did not give us enough context to understand. Also the fact that you do not know if he is pissed or not also indicate you are able to correctly read the situation. A simple next step is just to talk with him about anything. Could be work related or maybe just ask for change for the metro/taxi/vending machine or anything.
Aside from technical knowledge, people knowledge and communication is also crucial. You may need to work on that to improve. Talking here only in a professional setting, not for your personal life. For that, do whatever you like to do.