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You are going to need to elaborate. Are you saying you choose frequent access to outdoors hobbies rather than socializing or ease of access to a community?
Sure! Big cities can be super isolating, especially if you:
Even when some of these weren't true for me, people who are well established in large cities generally have well established social groups and, although they might be lovely people and very welcoming, aren't really in the market for proper friendships. Those who are also new to the city like you are very prone to move on themselves within a year or so.
Conversely, people in rural areas are simply desperate for friends. Within 2 months of moving to the country, we had different 2 couples who made it clear they wanted to give being friends a proper go - simply because they are desperate and we seem like we're on a similar vibe. There's definitely much less variety in sports, especially high level stuff, but conversely (as you said) we now have much easier access to great hikes/day walks. People here are also significantly more likely to be interested in gardening, pickling, jam making, bread making - all the self-sufficiency stuff. Much less of a "grindset" which can be super exhausting. Oh! People in rural areas also seem to be more likely to like board games, which my partner loves.
Don't get me wrong, I love big cities - the amazing food, the great public transport (I LOATHE driving), the culture and events. Everything has pros and cons though.
You lucked out. I've lived in a ton of rural areas and its almost always Trump country and at best maybe some centrist/libertarian wackos or even if there are lefties they're religious or something. The only rural types that are OKish are the hippy types, and even they can be annoying in large doses with their nonsense spirituality, smell, and cliquey musical tastes. I never end up living near the hippies though.
That said, "desperate to make friends" is something I have observed in rural and suburban areas. Its just by living there, so are you. I'd rather be able to filter through a large number of people and find people that match my specific beliefs as close as possible than be stuck with a dice roll of just a few (sometimes distant) neighbors.