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TL;DR, Big anxiety when job hunting, advice?
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Autism now a day has 3 levels which are used to describe how much support one needs afaik. level 1 is no or little support, which is where Aspergers is. Levels 2 and 3 require a lot of support, idk much about the levels tho.
I've noticed that too, when I don't take it as seriously I'm also more relaxed and that makes me do better.
It's really hard to not care about something important, I kinda feel like I'm going to be dead before the year ends if I don't manage to get a job. It's not true of course, but that's how important it feels.
I like to say I'm nervous too.
I'm not sure how to describe my communication style, I'll have to read about that! ^_^
That's comforting to hear, do you think I should ask before the interview, at the beginning, or both?
I wouldn't be surprised if I fell into that first level, I've spent much of my life trying to decode what people actually mean.
It's slightly risky asking for moderate accomodations, so I might not try it for the first time on a job I desperately wanted, and an agency or small place is more likely to agree than a big corporate. I'd ask them beforehand, I think it would be too awkward and unexpected if suggested during the actual interview.
I'd make it a casual request by email when the interview date is confirmed. E.g. "I sometimes find interviews stressful, would you be open to visiting a local cafe? I completely understand if that's not possible". It could be worded better, but I wouldn't be put off by that. Coffee interviews are a thing, and I like them - I get to expense a nice coffee! I'd pick a quiet place with good seating.
However, unless you do find it hard to be in an office at all, I'd want to make it clear during the interview that I'm normally fine with offices, so they don't get the wrong impression (that you'll refuse to work in an office) and I also wouldn't dwell on it. They've made an accomodation, so they'll expect you to be more relaxed. If you're still visibly stressed, that might be a red flag.
Anyway, I'm rambling now, but I do feel for you, it's very stressful.
ooh yeah, it is a bit risky, and I don't even know for sure if it will help with the stress. I think I would fit better in a smaller office where they have a bit more freedom.
I don't mind offices in themselves, it's more that interview thing that makes me super nervous.
Thank you so much for all the input! ๐