so i know this one girl who’s pretty freaky, if you know what i mean, and got mad at me because i didn’t share her interest in gay porn manga, but i just could never get into it. i prefer romantic rather than sexual content, and as a lesbian, i prefer romance between two women.
some people say, especially men, say it’s not okay due to fetishization of gay men and straight women not knowing the queer or the male experience, but someone else said they should be able to enjoy what they want and to say that it’s not ok was “gatekeeping” interests.
my friend is also pretty immature, but it’s ok. like, she thinks women kissing is gross and it “doesn’t sit right with her” but is fine with men kissing, and says women don’t attract her and only has interests and crushes on men but then says she’s bi? maybe she prefers men, idk???
anyway, what’s wrong with it so i can learn better??
I read an article, a few years ago, about yaoi ( or however that's spelt ) and the artists being gay, but the hugest fans in Japan of it .. are women.
Funny..
If I'm allowed to appreciate 2 women being in-love with one another, & there being NO male-ignorance in their relationship ..
why on Earth ought it be a problem if women want to have that kind of porn, with no women in it?
Who cares?
Really, who cares?
ALL porn is oversimplification: the words-porn ( wromances ) that women immerse themselves in, the visuals that us guys prefer, ALL of it leaves-out real-other, providing only oversimplified prop-ups for fantasy.
Take a good objective awareness of how we judge others, & see that oversimplification's intrinsic, until it wears-off, no less than 1/2 YEAR after we begin getting to know them..
1st one only knows their appearance..
Then one adds-in perhaps the sound of their voice, posture, attitude, style-preference, etc..
There's a meme about "you don't know somebody until you've seem them in financial-crisis, and being a casualty .. etc.
That's true.
Does anybody know their "partner" when they've never encountered their partner's core-reactions, raw, yet?
Not really..
So oversimplification's normal & all porn is, is specialized oversimplifications.
All the idiocy misframing everything..
Humankind couldn't outgrow the 1950's ( North American version ) until humankind experienced it, and outgrew it from experience .. moving-on to the reaction against it, the Women's Liberation decade..
It's the same with porn, but at the individual-level: outgrow it, finding the completeness in real someones richer, & then the oversimplifications become shallower & shallower.. less & less sufficient.
Denial isn't going to produce the result: it has to be outgrowing.
Were the world more authentic, outgrowing would be more normal..
Because fakery's normal, then fakery's more the frame-of-reference.
But again, who cares?
Women have equal-validity: they can fantasize on whomever they want: we guys oughn't be sooo insecure as to be "threatened" by what women play inside their minds, when fantasizing..
How the hell would us being insecure about things benefit us, or prove us to be somehow more "valid"??
It's idiocy.
Let women fantasize on whomever they want ( gender wise )
( I draw the line at underage, hence the limit put above: gender wise..
& of course much hentai is cartoon child-porn ) :
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makes sense, thank you so much