so i know this one girl who’s pretty freaky, if you know what i mean, and got mad at me because i didn’t share her interest in gay porn manga, but i just could never get into it. i prefer romantic rather than sexual content, and as a lesbian, i prefer romance between two women.
some people say, especially men, say it’s not okay due to fetishization of gay men and straight women not knowing the queer or the male experience, but someone else said they should be able to enjoy what they want and to say that it’s not ok was “gatekeeping” interests.
my friend is also pretty immature, but it’s ok. like, she thinks women kissing is gross and it “doesn’t sit right with her” but is fine with men kissing, and says women don’t attract her and only has interests and crushes on men but then says she’s bi? maybe she prefers men, idk???
anyway, what’s wrong with it so i can learn better??
these days young people are pressured to signal socially that they are not fully straight to belong to certain groups. If she's actually bi or not, only time will tell. Don't try to expect coherence from somebody still building their personality, preferences and identity when they are bombarded by complex social needs. Yaoi might or might not be connected to her preferences at all: lot of women like it because they can witness romance or sex in which they have no role, shielding them from the possibility of projecting themselves into the dynamic. Like lesbian porn for men, it takes away the anxiety of the imagined performance or the need to compare themselves with the actor.
ohh, thanks!