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Patrick
(sh.itjust.works)
Author: mygumsarebleeding
Taken from: https://www.reddit.com/r/comics/comments/1sbb94z/patrick/
Instead of "You didn't do the dishes again", you could also say "Can you please do the dishes?", which gets the same point across without the passive aggressive accusation.
I've tried rotating and splitting tasks (I do the dishes, then you do the dishes, or I start the dishes then you finish) without much luck. What seems to work well is dividing entire tasks. I do the cooking, dishes, and any outside work, you do the laundry. It works well with our differing schedules and there's no need to keep track of what part of a task someone else has done or not done.
That doesn't fix someone not doing their assigned task, of course.
Yeah, when you live together, on top of being a couple, you're also a team.
You have the common goal to put food on the table and keep the home nice.
Teams work best if you divide up responsibilities, and let each person be fully responsible for their tasks.
If the dishes need to be done, and I have time. I do the dishes.
If my non-platonic roommate notices the dishes need to be done, and they have time, they do the dishes.
Basically, unless it's a pretty complicated task that only one of us is proficient in, whoever is available just does it.
Sure, but you can't just expect people to behave like mature adults. That's fucking ridiculous, come on, now. We need to explore alternative communication methods on Tiktok to find a better solution.
Would not work with me. People's perception of "I have time" is not uniform, so maybe my partner would do the dishes diligently under this system, but I'd always be thinking, "I don't have time" (when in fact I am just not making time).
I need a system, otherwise I will take the piss. Me and my partner have a system, and it's a weight off our minds for the most part.
There’s an entire subset of people who consider any sort of direct criticism, no matter how valid and polite to be a personal attack. “Can you please do the dishes” means “you forgot to do the dishes and me reminding you is directly pointing out your failures” and see that as directly calling them a failure. This sort of thing might work on these types, who also tend to be incredibly passive aggressive.
Source: I’m very unhappy married to one of these people
Half of my staff are like this. Miserable.
So am I, but we separated last month.
And I'm feeling nothing but relief.
If you want to avoid a confrontation altogether, use an I message.
“I would like you to do the dishes.”
Then the ball’s in their court. They can do them or not, but they make their own informed decision.