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Do people really communicate like this?
(lemmy.ca)
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If the only messages I ever receive from that person are requests and demands, I don't know if I would call it rude from them, but I certainly wouldn't feel valued as a person.
Okay I get that. However, I feel like this has nothing to do with the original issue. If I only ever receive "requests and demands" from someone it would not make it any better if they beforehand say "hey, do you have time for a quick question" every time.
Of course I also text about other topics. Of course I ask how they are doing and chat about stuff. But when I have I question I simply ask that question.
I suppose that's a valid point, but engaging in discourse with a person before and, ideally, after a request seems to me to express that you appreciate them as both a person with whom you'd like to engage as well as someone who can help you. Admittedly the positive impact is diminished if you only do so when you need something.
It is highly dependent on the other person's interpretation of the situation. If they don't like to chat, then the person attempting to do so certainly could be interpreted as the rude one.