I had a better relationship with forgiveness when I started thinking about it being for my benefit.
Being angry at or hating someone is hard, takes mental energy, and is stressful. Letting that go can be a huge relief.
...and there is no reason to forgive someone if doing so would be self-destructive or potentially harmful to you in other ways.
I agree that anger takes energy, but I'm a fan of equanimity without the need for forgiveness.
I had a better relationship with forgiveness when I started thinking about it being for my benefit.
Being angry at or hating someone is hard, takes mental energy, and is stressful. Letting that go can be a huge relief.
...and there is no reason to forgive someone if doing so would be self-destructive or potentially harmful to you in other ways.
I agree that anger takes energy, but I'm a fan of equanimity without the need for forgiveness.