That's not what "whataboutism" is. This isn't a structured debate where we are limited to one topic, it's a conversation... and we're allowed to use examples and compare like to like, you do it, I do it, every human on Earth does it every day.

Sure, you're allowed to call this and everything else 'whataboutism', I don't think you should be given a "whataboutism score" wherein those with the highest scores are avoided by reasonable people.

I await your charge of gaslighting eagerly